Potty training and EOW

[McWeedie]

I'm seperated from 'D'H and thinking about starting potty training. Thing is whilst 'D'H is fine taking DT's out for trips and playing etc when it comes to the nitty gritty of everday stuff he is very lazy/useless. He has them every other weekend for one or two days depending on 'whether he feels he can cope'. I know he will just leave them in nappies whatever I say. I just can't talk to him about anything as he always knows best despite knowing sod all!

They are 2 and not really talking yet so can't tell him they need the toilet, although they do give signals which I understand. I was going to start with DD as she is the most advanced and I can't get my head round doing both at the same time. So how do I do this, will it be confusing for them? Will this be a nightmare? Has anyone got experience of this or any tips? I'm really dreading this and I feel angry already knowing that my hard work will be wasted.

it will be fine. it may take a little longer but you could always go from nappies to pants at your house and pullups with dad.

have you asked him what he thinks?

Thanks Blackeye, hopefully it wont make too much of a difference. No point talking to 'D'H as he will only lie and say he will do it when he wont - its what he does.

which I imagine is really piss-off making. you could wait a little longer until they are more ready. then they wiill get it within the two weeks.

I went with the potty training with pull-ups. dd had physical issues that meant that she could not feel when she needed the loo until the last minute. ds had issues as he had toddler diarrhoea so accidents would have been disasterous for carpets and furniture.

it was hard when the world and his wife had an opinion on what I ought to do to make it work and blamed parenting skills. thankfully the medical professionals involved with them were reassuring and confirmed it was normal and nothing to worry about.

if he is just having them in the day for one or two days eow it wont be an issue to sometimes wear pull ups.

don't sweat it. they will soon be able to say "no pull ups" to him.

do your best to train and tell him here are the pants and spare clothes then let him get on with it (or not) - if he wants to keep pull ups as his house his decision.

Thank you for your replies.

I know I shouldn't let it get to me, I just find it so frustrating. He acts (in front of other people) like father of the year, but won't even bath them or clean their teeth. Yes its only for a few nights a month and in the grand scheme probably wont make a difference but it really really pisses me off.

I think also I'm dreading potty training as tbh I really don't have a clue what to do, so maybe I am working myself up. I shall just do what I always do and just get on with it.

Can I just ask, do you just take their nappy off cold turkey and stick them on a potty every 20 mins then nappy at night or put them in pull ups and take them every 20 mins?

Start here and then read some potty training threads..

Start sitting on pity at every nappy change and morning night get a senses of when she ewes and poos if it is a pattern .

www.mumsnet.com/toddlers/potty-training

Buy lots of cheap pants from primary you can throw if get pood on

Cover up your lovely carpets with something easy to clean you will get wee and poo on the floor ...

Sit on potty not pity
Write a note of times she wees and poos eg is it half hour after eating ? Two hours ?

Thank you for the tips, I'll get reading.