im having a wobble ladies :(

[misstiredbuthappy]

So fed up sick of the same old crap, skint bored very bored and lonely :(

Please tell me im not destined to spend the rest of my life with the 4 four walls to talk to when dd goes to bed please god nooooo

I try to keep up beat and positive but its bloody hard sometimes. Nothing EVER changes :(

Ah that's great news for you misstiredbunny, well done.
Not so much on the cough though, quite a few ppl I know have it. Gargle warm saltwater, it seems to be working for my friends.
Anyway off to bed thinking tomorrow's another day and how nice it would be to spend a night in with u gals in the real world moaning and laughing at the ole hags we have become! Lol lol lol
G'night all... G'night John boy... Last one up turn off the lights ! X

The evenings and weekend do seem to go on, but like you mcphee, I couldn't go back. I would rather be beating myself up for being lonely because I haven't been making more of an effort to socialise,than going round in circles married to ex h

Thanks everybody your all lovely to talk too.

Night xx

Exactly frames

I'm done with pathetic little man children

I need a real man, who is capable of earning a wage, loving good and being respectful x

Come on ladies, the world is passing you by! Sometimes you have to take a few risks to get you out there and moving.

I'm a single mum to a 3yo DD. I set up my own business working from home when she was a year old and now I run a modestly sized company. I work my own hours from home to wrap around my daughter and I am never lonely or bored, frankly I would love an evening in front of the TV. I started off with £30 to buy products, sold them on and reinvested the proceeds so not a huge amount. I now have an income that keeps us afloat. It can be done!

That's great queen. I also work f/t, and am very fortunate that my job is very flexible, keeps me busy, something I love doing, and pays enough. I just wouldnt be that smug to tell others "to come on" sometimes it has felt like I am forever pulling my socks up, and getting on with it. It is very easy to think the rest of the world is happily married, when your a single parent, and that families spend their evenings being amazingly jolly, no one is tired, there is always free childcare because both parents have a kicking social life

Queen Being a 'success' is great for you but recognising that not everyone is in your happy place, means you lack empathy

I have achieved a lot in life. I'm not however going to smugly list my successes and joy in life on a thread where others are down. I can still feel miserable, sad and lonely and also recognise that life can be bloody hard as a single mother for many. Not everyone can have that successful job or exciting life. It's extremely hard for many because of lack of childcare, opportunity and poverty.

Absolutely fine to have a moan but perhaps the few out there who are wondering if there are other single parents who do make it work could do with some encouragement?

I'm always happy to listen and share motivation if anyone is thinking about taking a few risks and pushing themselves. It is tough being single and a parent but it doesn't have to limit you. If other posters interpret that as smug or lacking in empathy well hey hoo but just maybe someone read my post and thought they might want to give it a go.

Nothing bad about that is there?

No its not bad queen, just think you chose the wrong thread. Accepting failures are big toughy things in life by all means celebrate your success, but don't shy away from humility. Indians, consider a FWB, for shagging neglect.

Thanks Indians. I feel crap, and so tired. It is good to know that some people feel like that too. A Mum I see from time to time and who has been quite frosty in the past, smiled at me this evening, it was a real achievement.

Op. I feel for you because I've been there. Any chance you can maybe join a book club as it allows you to get away one night a month and gives you something to do in the evenings (reading the designated book). Or do you have time to do an online course or professional development as these sort of things can make you feel like you're working towards something.

Sorry all my comments sound trite but I've been in the same situation and also worried that DD was becoming my only friend!

It always helps to remember that, as my mum used to tell me, 'you are not alone... There is always someone out there in the world feeling just the way you do at this moment. '. Again it sounds trite but it's a weirdly comforting thought.

I find it helps me talking (well typing) to people that are in the same boat, makes me feel less alone and less like a failure.

I've just got Netflix and it's the best thing I've done in ages... Gives me something to do when the kids are in bed and I start to ponder on the meaning of life...

Sorry you're feeling shite OP. The night just somehow seem to make cry thing feel worse.

I'm in the north to East Midlands so if you are close drop me a pm

william yes thats what ive realised im jot the only one that feels shitty from time to time.

Im feeling brighter today had a but of a pamper day roots done and eyebrows, the little things in life hey, bck to work tomorrow. I feel like a right misery arse moaning sorry !

thebluedog im in sunny wales

Hey there, I know i am late to the party but can I join this LP wallowfest please?

I am 1yr post split and can totally identify with the 'will this be my life forever?' feeling. To make it worse we have just got 2 kittens who are lovely but now i find myself talking to them - it is a slippery slope!

My two DDs are 8 & 11 so they are good company but not a replacement for a proper adult. Though my eldest can make a great cup of tea now so at least I feel there is one less job for me.

So no good advice really - I reckon a good wallow on MN and realising that there are lots of us feeling the same is all that is needed.
oh and roots and eyebrows is a great start too

Yes id be up for a miserable so and so meet up :)

Its better to talk to the kittens than yourself not that I do that honestly

Cant wait untill dd can make a cuppa ! On mothers day she offerd to make me a cup of water and a biscuit in bed. Made me laugh bless her.

Hey everyone. Just wanted to say stay strong. I know it's lonely and boring sometimes but I bet your DC adore you and will thank you for the stability you have given them.

Have a sore throat, garden needs a big cut back (big garden), I can do it but managing the tip run with all the rubbish on top of the physical effort...don't relish it. House going on market and need to do DIY to get it ready. Daughter has PMT. All good

Life is just so busy and when you're on your own you haven't got anyone to share it with. The garden is hard physical stuff, not just a little mow. Some trees, fences need fixing and a hedge needs cutting. The hedges are approx 90 foot long...two of them! I'm planning to move because although I keep on top of it, it's constant work to do so.

But I have to paint house first and so on .

I'm going to moan here and tomorrow my poker face will be there for work.