Hi iv looked everywhere for this topic but found nothing so thought Id post my own :)
im currently pregnant with my ex's baby. Brief explanation: together 15months, baby planned, got sick of his disrespectful attitude and behaviour and chucked his sorry behind out before i found out i was pregnant around 6wks ago.
His father never left his mother alone and was abusive, my ex has similar traits to his father and im concerned how much he is going to force himself into my life once baby is here, assuming he doesnt do the opposite...i cant predict his behaviour.
We have not yet discussed visits and he does work a lot of hrs (12+hrs 5days pw) so that should keep him out of my hair alot but how often do you suggest i let him see the newborn? Im pretty certain by the time baby is here ill want to spend as little time possible with him if he continues how he is. im concerned hell expect to be there everyday and im not sure i could deal with the stress of him and a new born.
So, how often would you let him be in your home seeing the baby over the first few months? there is no way he is taking that baby out of my sight for a few months at least so i have to be around him for them to bond. Also, anyone learnt how to put their foot down with an ex who is stubborn and child-like in their problem solving skills (e.g. you tell him u need an apology for the disgusting ways he spoke to you and he will ignore you for days or until you apologise which iv stopped apologising).
Any helpful advice or experience welcome :) thank you 