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Childminder said my bedroom is 'disgusting.'

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GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 07/02/2014 17:46

My daughter asked me today if the childminder is allowed in my room. I said why was she in there? My daughter said she was getting something, which is fine except she said that the childminder said it was 'disgusting!' This is pretty weird isn't it?!?

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SoonToBeSix · 08/02/2014 16:26

Crash I don't think there is a certain time of day to use a babysitter.

Meglet · 08/02/2014 16:34

My bedroom looks like a students room. No mugs or food debris though.

Pile of sunday papers I'm still ploughing through on the floor, clothes on back of door, wardrobe handles. Top of dressing table is a total dump of random clutter. Bed never made.

It used to be tidy before I had dc's and when they had naps. It's also the only safe storage space I have, so things get dumped in there and the door locked so the kids can't get them. The walls are too thin for heavy duty shelves / cupboards.

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GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 08/02/2014 16:35

Look if someone minds my kids when they're asleep I call them a babysitter. If its daytime I call them a childminder. Neither happens terribly often!

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gamerchick · 08/02/2014 16:38

you didn't leave a giant dildo out or something did you?

rollonthesummer · 08/02/2014 16:42

Did she mean the decor rather than the tidiness?

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GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 08/02/2014 16:48

No idea what she meant to be honest and no- no dildos. I described all the mess in the room above :-)

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crashbangboom · 08/02/2014 17:10

So when did this care actually take place? If daytime then should be registered.

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GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 08/02/2014 17:15

Lots of Childcare isn't registered! She has police checks.

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grabaspoon · 08/02/2014 17:17

I am a nanny to a single parent.

Her bedroom is spotless as is the house.

I am a messy mare.

Each to their own.

She shouldn't have said it but I don't think saying I am a single parent has anything to do with your room being a mess.

TaurielTest · 08/02/2014 17:23

If someone I was paying to babysit made rude remarks about my messy bedroom to my child that would be the last time I employed them.

OneMoreThenNoMore · 08/02/2014 17:36

Our bedroom is usually the messiest in the house- it's the last one to get tidied Confused

Before dc it was always spotless. Nowadays there are usually piles of clothes around, the dcs toys can be found littered around the room at the weekends, there's often a used nurofen syringe or calpol spoon and bottle on top of the chest of drawers as one of the dc seems to be permanently ill at the moment...

Messy, yes. Disgusting, no.

It's just that if I have time, I'll tidy the other more "public" rooms in the the house, and the dcs rooms, before tidying our own room. I thought hoped that all parents-of-young-children's rooms were like this actually Blush

Why was she even in your room? Snooping, or a valid reason? I wouldn't be using her again, if I were you.

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GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 08/02/2014 22:37

I have already arranged an alternative babysitter. She's actually a reg childminder. The other girl- well, that's the end of her really!

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GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 08/02/2014 22:37

Babysitters/childminders can be so tricky to get right!!!

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innisglas · 09/02/2014 17:05

I wouldn't use her again, it is totally inappropriate to make comments like that to a child.

Even if it were a tip, that is entirely your business

TwittyMcTwitterson · 09/02/2014 18:57

I can't say how happy I am to read that other peoples bedrooms are a mess!!! GrinGrinGrin

Sod the babysitter/childminder. It's your house, your mess. At least it was only the bedroom. Some days my whole house is 'disgusting' but I just don't give a shit/have more important things to do

LEMmingaround · 09/02/2014 19:02

well, my bedroom IS disgusting - but if anyone i had employed to come into my house and do stuff (i don't care if you want to call them a babysitter/childminder/nanny/lady wot does) made a comment about it, i'd be looking elsewhere for my help.

LEMmingaround · 09/02/2014 19:05

are people actually arguing over wht the OP called her childminder?? ahaahahahahahaha

JessePinkmanIsMine · 09/02/2014 19:08

Tbf, there is a difference on what level of professionalism you'd expect between a babysitter and a childminder.

crashbangboom · 09/02/2014 19:29

She's not a child minder if she comes into OP home. Childminders do eyfs paperwork, have insurance, pay tax..... I expect this babysitter is doing none of that. Childcare on the cheap on all accounts by the sound of it

TwittyMcTwitterson · 09/02/2014 19:42

She looks after kids for cash. Nuff said Wink

CheesyBadger · 09/02/2014 19:47

My bedroom is a shit heap. But it is my bedroom. Think it, don't say it!

rach2713 · 09/02/2014 19:48

Omg either way she still employed the girl to look after her children child minder or not and she invaded her personal space by goin in her room and sayin it was a mess

KingRollo · 10/02/2014 20:04

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RussianBlu · 10/02/2014 22:11

I don't see what you being a lone parent has to do with the state of your bedroom. Maybe actually there is more chance of it being tidy as there is only one persons stuff and you haven't got anyone to tidy up after. However, if you a naturally an untidy person then I suppose its going to be untidy anyway.

Anyway, more to the point what would she be needing to get from your bedroom? That's the part I wouldn't like.

MERLYPUSS · 13/02/2014 10:30

There's a difference between messy and dirty. I'd take messy any day of the week. Disgusting is rotten food and dog shit every where.