Do you ever get the impression they'd sign their rights away if they could stop paying?

[ChallengeAnt]

Dd's dad is full of broken promises and talk about seeing her and then we don't hear from him for weeks. At the moment we are on a promise of a weekly phone call or text and its been three weeks. Whenever I tell him its not good enough, he switches to the "well I've not seen her in ages so I shouldn't have to pay maintenance" rant (his choice) to try change the subject and I have to remind him about CSA and contact being separate from maintenance. I honestly think if I said to him that he didn't have to pay maintenance anymore if he permanently signed his rights away he'd do it. It makes me kind of sad that its all about money to him and not about dd.

Does anyone else ever feel like this or have an ex who acts this way?

Yes, I must be incredibly biased against women. Hence my comment that there are good and bad fathers and mothers.

Why must I be a FNF advocate just because I do not agree with "Dad bashing"?

Why did I say it appears she is saying he is bad father? Because from the posts it appears that she is saying his wife must have had reason to up and move without telling him. Do we assume all Mothers must have a valid reason for acting unreasonably? THAT is incredibly biased. Some mothers DO act unreasonably just as some fathers do. It's the way of the world.

It's just a shame that most mothers on this board would love to have caring, involved non resident parents but when one posts describing a hostile ex, they are generally told that they are in the wrong and their ex obviously has a reason to act as they are.

Some parents (note I say parents, not a specific gender) hav3

have to fight for their children's rights. Or again, is it only Mothers who are allowed to do that?

Your comment that mothers are unreasonable for leaving thier partners is TOTALLY RIDICULOUS.
YOU ARE MOTHER BASHING.
Your constant comments on this site Supporting all Lost dads comments tell me you are with FNF.
I think that you are very fixed and rigid in your opinions and the fact you clearly look to cause an arguement shows that you clearly are on an agenda and you do genderises.
I have worked in this field for many years so my knowledge comes from experience gained from this. And if you have previuosly read my posts you will see that on nemerous occassions i have supported lostdads comments. This is a forum and people are able put in thir own thoughts on topics however trying to start a hate campiaign against one posters comments you do not agree with shows your own physcological issues.

To be fair to kitty, lostdad claims his wife "abducted" their child and then also mocks her for "claiming" to be scared of him and sending other people to do the handover. She's not the only one (far from it I think!) who thinks their is more to his story. And she has never said he is a bad father. It doesn't mean you are saying someone is a bad father to point out that you think there is more to what they post than they actually share.

There is more*

My ex proposed signing his rights away several times and took us to a Tribunal to try to get out of it! I KNOW he would merrily trot off into the sunset rubbing his hands if I allowed him to treat DD like a piece of meat he has decided against.

My exh still thinks he is the rightful claimant to the "Daddy of the Year" award...In the meantime he has stopped paying maintenance since he (verbatim) "thinks he has paid enough".

I have never kept the children away from him despite this. Kids have not heard from him in two weeks now and he will contact them when he finds an opening in his hectic diary no doubt.

Two weeks ago he announced to the DC that they would have to come to his two weeks later this summer since he has a wedding to go to. Uh huh....no question whether this works for me, could I arrange it with work, could he contribute to the two weeks of holiday camp I now have to cough up for. Nada. He is allowed to chop change when and what he wants but I am the mother of all bitches for asking for the maintenance. Sure thing.

He would not sign his rights away because that would mean he could no longer bitch about me. Yay me.