Being a lone parent is great!

[SnoopyLovesYou]

I started a thread about single mother stigmatisms and lots of people said that they are really positive about being single parents. Thought it would be good to start a thread about the upsides... What do you love about raising your children with no partner? And how do we best parent boys when there isn't a responsible father figure to fall back on? One thing I love is not having to listen to my ex complaining and criticising!

[sandiy]

I miss having someone who is equally proud of my children's achievements.
I don t miss trickle of requests for extra money I don't miss the blinking credit card always being maxed up I ve spent years paying it off with him spending again.
I love going to bed when I'm ready not having to wait til news night time.
Sometimes I go up to bed same time as the children.
When I order takeaway I order what me and the kids fancy it's so much cheaper not needing to order mammoth portions of special fried rice.
OMG how much loo roll do men use I hardly ever buy loo roll sugar or coffee anymore.
If I need help I pay for it then I don t have to be great full I just pay.I still get nervous even if I'm paying though because I'm frightened that I will get shouted at when things go wrong
Finally and I could go on forever the best bit of all is not being constantly on edge I had this nameless fearconstantly and an ulcer my best friend was gavisgon and ranitidine.It only flares up now when I'm really stressed

[SnoopyLovesYou]

Most of all, I love not having to listen to the verbal abuse... :-D

We're so much more of a FAMILY since he's gone. Laughter, trips, nice food, buying the things we want...

[Muuuuuuumcanihave]

You all make it sound so positive, i hope i get that feeling soon as at minute its crap. I can list all the positive stuff: no more abuse of any kind, no more walking on eggshells, smaller food shop, less washing, the kids can be kids noisy and untidy, i can eventually get back to being me.

[honey86]

i had a hard start to single parenting. my man (and believe me, he was a real man, a diamond) died 4 1/2 years ago, with i was preg with dc3... i found it so hard but i learned.... dd is 4 now and i was worried how the lack of daddy would affect her. but actually, she seems to be growing into such a happy clever confident child. makes me trust more that ive done a chuffing good job at being their only parent ive ended up with complete arses since though xx

[honey86]

though just come out of an emotional abusive relationship (by whom im preg by) and i got the strength to walk away early. tell ya what, ive not cried since

[Lioninthesun]

Glad you are doing well, I remember your posts :)

[SnoopyLovesYou]

My own ex ('ex' suits him so much better than 'partner') has begun having my kids again. Now for 10 hours per week. It's a LOT. He's manipulating them. I hate it! I kind of wish I could just have them all the time to protect them but all the courts say is 'daddy this daddy that yakkity yak.' Regardless seemingly of the negativity he is inflicting on them. :-(
Such emotional and verbal abuse I suffered at his hands. It takes a lot of getting over!

[Lioninthesun]

But you are getting over it - and that is only possible because you were strong enough to see what you needed to do.
Anyone dreading fathers day? For the moment DD is too small to notice (she doesn't even know what a daddy is as far as I am aware) but it must be pretty tough for those of you who have to help make something? I wonder what they do in schools for kids with no dad instead of the usual Happy Fathers Day crafting?

[SnoopyLovesYou]

I'm ignoring it. I think he's a crap father and I'm not going to pretend otherwise!

[honey86]

ill do fathers day for my 3, as their dad deserves it, he was an amazing dad dispite working alot. ill prob let them choose some flowers and a new candle/ ornament to put at his grave.

as for the other waste of space i dont intend to bother. he rambled on about how much of a waste of money mothers day is so i assume the same applies to fathers day to him? (prob not )

hes very much obsessed about FATHERS rights and what MEN should get and how respected MEN should be treated. hell happily shag a woman get her preg, but hes a woman hater, extremely anti-womans-rights. a blantant believer that women should forever be in a mans shadow.

[SnoopyLovesYou]

I don't think I'd get on well with him either but who's this that you're referring to? A more recent ex?

[Lioninthesun]

Yes, I won't bother when DD is older either. I do wonder if he thinks of her when he sees the adverts/shop promotions for F.day though.
Honey that sounds like a lovely idea for their real dad. Better to keep the memory of the good guy going :)
On the plus side, no having to buy computer games/DVD's other gadgets! We're saving £ ladies! :)

[Lioninthesun]

Sorry about the missing letters in my posts - I eat choccy hobnobs in bed when DD is asleep and a few crumbs seem too be lodged in my laptop keyboard!

[honey86]

a more recent ex who made the past 4 months of my life hell xx

[SnoopyLovesYou]

Well I've got more pressing things than Father's Day to worry about and I have no desire for any Mothers Day presents from him!!

[sandiy]

My ex bought my mothers day present using vouchers that his girlfriend had for sainsburys.He let the children pick thoughIm wracking my brain for an equally insulting response any ideas.Im thinking cheesy mug from moon pig with photos of the children doing something amazing that he can never be arsed to do

[Raaraathenoisybaby]

Sandiy yy to the loo roll and everything in your post

Being able to pay for help and not beg for it is amazing. In my marriage I had lots of money and no help and I was knackered and miserable. Now I have not v much money but control, a budget and a cleaner

[SnoopyLovesYou]

Your ex sounds very practical sandiy! ;-)

[SnoopyLovesYou]

RaaRaa you're so right- a cleaner! Wow!