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Lone parents

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What is the best thing about being a single parent??

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tinyFox · 09/05/2006 12:08

For me i think it's making decisions about what i want to do and not having to think about a partner and what he would want you to do. If the house is a mess, then it's mine and the kids mess, and i can tidy up when I want to, not when someones moaning at me. I l ike having my own money, and being able to pay the bills myself and not have a ex dh who spent all the money before the first week of getting paid. I like to dicipline the kids. that is just a few my things. Just wondered how other people felt on the matter, was it harder than you thought? Do you like it?

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Caligula · 09/05/2006 12:12

Not having to visit the MIL

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tinyFox · 09/05/2006 12:14

yep i'd forgotten that one!! it gets better and better, lol.

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Bugsy2 · 09/05/2006 12:16

Spot on Caligula. My ex-H's parents had divorced, so I had two MILs! No more thank heavens.
Other than that, much happier without ex-H. He travelled alot & was really difficult to live with when he was home - so could only improve without him. I'm financially worse off but I'd rather that, than be miserable.

spursmum · 09/05/2006 12:18

I like the fact that what I say goes, I can do what I like, wear what I like, sleep in the middle of the bed, have complete control of the TV etc.
It's the little things that make me happy!!

bluejelly · 09/05/2006 12:19

I love knowing that I have left a bad relationship behind me, and that rather than having to 'put up and shut up' I was able to take charge of my life and move on.

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tinyFox · 09/05/2006 12:20

I know what you mean, i have less money but more money if you see what i mean. I just feel so much more relaxed and don't dread ex coming home from work and what mood would he be in. i wish i done it years ago.

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tinyFox · 09/05/2006 12:21

I like having control of the tv, my ex used to come in pick up the remote and you wouldn't see it again, you had to watch what he wanted, which was a lode of rubbish tbh with you, lol.

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jinglybits · 09/05/2006 12:24

happiness, theres nothing worse than living with someone who sucks the happiness out of a home and makes you feel low!
also as they say in sex and the city you can indulge in 'secret single behaviour' such as dancing around the lounge singing or any other little quirks without any shyness...i'm hoping ds will grow up in a confident happy manner because of all the quirky expression he's exposed to :)

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tinyFox · 09/05/2006 12:35

too true! :)

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Mascaraohara · 09/05/2006 12:45

being single!

having the freedom to do what you want when you want.

up sticks and disappear for a weekend to the seaside.

snogging boys

nobody to answer to

no disagreements about disipline

less cleaning to do

east what you want

watch what you want..

oh the list is endless could talk myself into getting rid of my fella at this rate. loveed being a single parent. In fact I still describe myseld as a single parent even though I have a boyfriend who is very good with dd.

WelshBoris · 09/05/2006 12:46

i still visit my ex MIL shes ok though

WelshBoris · 09/05/2006 12:47

ooooh yeah snogging boys

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tinyFox · 09/05/2006 12:48

snogging boys!!! well i never, lol. Haven't done that myself, sadly, lmao.

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WelshBoris · 09/05/2006 12:49

well men, not boys

Mascaraohara · 09/05/2006 12:51

You have to do snogging boys... it's so much fun! espeically when you're out with a group of smug couples and they're all secretly desperate to be able to get chatted up and have a little snog but they no it'll never happen.

Flirting is so much fun and completely guilt free when you're single.

Getting drunk on the odd night your childless and really enjoying it soo much more than those who get to do it all the time.

bluejelly · 09/05/2006 12:52

With you there MOH

WelshBoris · 09/05/2006 12:53

I also like having my own money, and the freedom that it brings

LittleSarah · 09/05/2006 12:53

The control... I have all the power! Ha ha ha!

TV, my weekends, the food, my dd... and the unknown ahead - will it be me and dd living quietly just the two of us with friends and family around or will I have more kids and or a man someday?!?

At the moment the former sounds easiest!

bluejelly · 09/05/2006 12:55

I know what you mean LS-- it's a feeling of not having your life mapped out in front of you. Initially scary but I think once you are over the shock of it, it's so liberating...

WelshBoris · 09/05/2006 12:56

I cant imagine anyone else living with DD and I, dont think I could handle it

LittleSarah · 09/05/2006 12:57

Exactly, now I am comfortable with me and dd and life as it is I am actually happy for it to stay that way... but it could change, and that would be grand too. Although, scary.

Also MoH - snogging always fun...

LittleSarah · 09/05/2006 12:58

Yes WB, a friend of mine moved in with his girlfriend (v quickly in my opinion but hey) and was teling me how it was going and I just thought... 'I don't know... I just don't know.'

Mascaraohara · 09/05/2006 13:01

What about not having to justify why you need another 2 pairs of shoes..

you can make big household purchase without having to consult anybody

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tinyFox · 09/05/2006 17:11

The list is endless isn't it?

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Blunderwoman · 09/05/2006 17:13

Only having one toddler to look after instead of two, one aged two and a half and the other aged 32!

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