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What is the best thing about being a single parent??

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tinyFox · 09/05/2006 12:08

For me i think it's making decisions about what i want to do and not having to think about a partner and what he would want you to do. If the house is a mess, then it's mine and the kids mess, and i can tidy up when I want to, not when someones moaning at me. I l ike having my own money, and being able to pay the bills myself and not have a ex dh who spent all the money before the first week of getting paid. I like to dicipline the kids. that is just a few my things. Just wondered how other people felt on the matter, was it harder than you thought? Do you like it?

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tinyFox · 09/05/2006 17:14

lol

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fairyfly · 09/05/2006 17:19

Is it just me or when you are a single parent people ask you to do loads for them as they think you're not spending the weekend with your spouse so you must be free to slave for others.

Sorry ask me another day as today the answer is sweet fa.

iPodthereforiPoor · 10/05/2006 16:50

I want to snog boys again!

MummyToToby · 10/05/2006 17:56

you can name your kids what you want - no compromising or horrible family traditions if you don't want! everything you wanna buy for your baby you can buy. you don;t have to ask someone else if they like the same cot, pram, colour theme for nursery etc.

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tinyFox · 10/05/2006 19:10

I also like the fact that my kids are so much more relaxed than they were before. Also was able to get kittens, as ex h didn't like cats and wouldn't let me get one. But of course it was alright for him to get a dog, which subsequently i ended up with because he wouldn't pick up after it.

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prettyfly1 · 10/05/2006 19:27

i have always been a single mum so i dont know any different but i love it!!!! i love making all the choices over his upbringing my way. i love not having to share him. i love not having to argue over the remote or clean a footie kit or as has already been mentioned - spending time with the dreaded mil!!! i love that my house is a shrine to all things female and that i can do as i please within reason and most of all i love that everything my son and i enjoy is because of my work and my acheivements and i am proud of our lives !!!

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tinyFox · 10/05/2006 20:13

I wish i'd done it years ago!!! Having so much fun. Also first time out being single on friday!"! whoooooohooooooo!!!!

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BernieBear · 10/05/2006 21:09

Have snogged one or two boys - BUT WANT MORE!!!!!!!!!!!! Just moved to my final destination (6 moves in 2 years) and oh yes, this is the place - just me and ds - although am now battling with ds over Australian soaps!!!!! (note to self: must get the video working!)

chubbleigh · 10/05/2006 21:52

Love the calm, just the peace and quiet in the evenings when nipper in bed. Also cannot believe how much less housework I do, especially in the bathroom!!! Lots less ironing as well.

singledadofthree · 10/05/2006 23:48

knowing that my kids will leave home soon and i'll beable to sell up, be loaded, tour the world and meet lots of babes....only joking :o

SandyR · 24/05/2006 19:27

Not having to trim nose and ear hair after having changed a million pooey nappies...

Not getting asked "whats for dinner?" when he's been sat on the sofa all day at the weekend and I've been running around like a mad thing...

Not having to scrabble around on the floor for ex-DPs toe nail clippings so DS doesn't choke on them...

ooh... there must be loads more...

fattiemumma · 24/05/2006 19:27

not needing to shave me legs!

happysinglemum · 09/06/2006 18:10

Realizing that I'm me again :) - I'd tried too hard to be what xp wanted in a wife that I forgot who I was!!

Nobody seeing the crap things I do - so I'm able to present the world with chilled yummy mummy and noone knows about stressed scummy mummy!!!!

JulesP · 16/06/2006 21:56

New mum (10 weeks), never been with father (long story), v. hard work (only me to do everything), but after listening to mums at postnatal group think I've got a good deal. At least I don't have to expend energy having a go at father when he doesn't chip in, is thoughtless (like that would ever happen ), or makes a complete pigs ear of changing/feeding/getting to bed etc. Would be nice to have a bit of adult conversation/attention though, but small price to pay.

happysinglemum · 16/06/2006 22:03

Ditto, JulesP ... listened to mum at postnatal group saying how she'd raced around dusting and ironing when she realized that her hubby was due home in 20 mins (...what?????? surely HE should be doing the jobs for her!!)

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