Facing pregnancy alone?

[missmaybe]

Just wanted to start a new thread on this - I spotted the old thread but as it has 1,000 messages now it is closed to new messages. I couldn't see a replacement thread so I'm starting one as I think it is a cracking idea!

I'm 29 years old and I'm 7 weeks and 2 days gone with an unplanned pregnancy and really hoping I'll be able to cope. The situation is complicated but the man who got me pregnant isn't around, and won't be. It's a bit scary but I am also hoping it will exciting and wonderful to be a mum - I've always wanted to have children (though admittedly not under these particular circumstances! still...)

I've been reading through the old thread and also curious to know what posters there are up to now! xmasevebundle, is all going well with you?

Bump!

Is NOBODY out there in the same situation as me?!

Hi Missy, I have a beautiful 20mo DD and had her solo. I was difficult sometimes but I've never regretted it. She is just fabulous-funny and adorable and very much wanted. Hold your head high and enjoy it. Plan the birth and don't be afraid then fall wonderfully in love and be like the woman I saw in Sainsburys this week, so completely engrossed in talking to her baby she ploughed into the shelves (IYSWIM!)

Hi, I already have 3 children, split from husband earlier this year but stupidly kept on sleeping with him! Im now 6 weeks pregnant and it looks like i will be going it alone. Need to keep strong xx

Thanks makeit, Im still trying to learn the lingo on here! Im very excited about the pregnancy my youngest is 6 so im really starting again! lol at the bad taste in men :) the ex is not happy at all, I went on the pregnancy part of the site and was guided over here, I can see men are a big pain on the bum ;)

confused, that's so exciting! So soon!

I'm 8+1 now and finding pregnancy mostly pretty tiring and I'm queasy a lot of the time. But I understand this might ease off after the first trimester, so I'm glad I've got a couple of weeks of Christmas holiday coming up in the meantime :)

queenofthepirates, I got quite excited when I read your comment, and it reminded me of all the positive stuff in store. I will try not to bump into things in actual stores, though, hehe...

Well ex husband popped over the evening and it was so tense :( He is really not happy with the situation, Im hoping he gets to grips with it soon cos he is making me anxious and unhappy :(

Morning all, I tend to drop off after a while but I do pop up. I am 25+3, very much going it alone. Quite enjoyed parenting workshop last week, watching ten terrified men, it harked back to me leaving ExP at home so I could shop in peace, I was grateful he wasn't there. I'm definitely looking for the positives

I still have no DS, hes going to come soon i have a feeling!

Ill watch this thread now.

Hello missy, mine was unplanned too! This your first? I had a few ups and down to say the least! All worth it though!

When are you due?

greenj1 hope you're not too tense, so sorry to hear exp is making you anxious, that's the last thing you need. If it's any help, hypnobirthing cds really helped me relax when I was knotted up. I used to listen to them to practise before the birth and they worked a treat getting me to sleep at nights.

missy there are so many positives to going solo (not including walking into shelving). A lot of my married friends have privately said they wished they had the freedom to make decisions that I have. I do have to do all the hard work but reap the rewards too. If you ever need a bit of a boost if you feel glum, come and message me and I'll tell you all about the good stuff! Like when your child blows you kisses at night or runs to hug you.

I am a LP and my DS is now 21.

Thriving. Studying. Got a busy social life. Has travelled. Enjoying life.

All the things I brought him up (encouraged) to do and be.

He started a Saturday job around 14 for a few years. And a few other part-time jobs after.

It's hard anyway bringing up kids, but really it's easier doing it alone than having a twat father around (that's like having two DC!).

I certainly won't say it's been a walk in the park, so to speak.

You also have to get over yourself and ask for help when you need it - found that the hardest, not wanting to "put people out" so to speak...
90% of those I asked were great! (Also a good way to find out who your friends really are).

And yes, you can just make the decisions alone instead of endlessly having to discuss child-rearing stuff...

If I can do it, you can too!

And congratulations to all of you doing it, or about to embark on it.

I went to the hospital last wednesday because of fluid leaking, its still happening.

My waters have broken but no contractions nor a little baby

I see the consultant tomorrow as they might do my c-section tomorrow!

Baby bundle will be here before sunday

Hello, i was one of the posters in the last thread. My dd is now 2 months and her dad still hasnt seem her! I wont pretend its Easy but it is worth it. I think if you dont know any different you dont really miss it. This is My first one so dont know what it would be like to share it with à partner. I spent My pregnancy à crying wreck due to xp horridness and My only regret is that i didnt enjoy it more but we are not in control of our emotions, especIally when pregnant :)

I panic sometimes at doing it all alone. I also worry about how to tell her about her dad but will deal with that when it happens. Her granddad (his dad) has shown some interest which is lovely but rest of his family have been silent which is à bit painful.

I try and look at the positives and how much i love her and that i can make all the decisions. Being à mum is amazing, you wont regret it

Xx

Baby bundle arrived yesterday via c-section at 2.04pm 7lb 10oz and 2 weeks 5 days early.

My waters broke on wednesday(last week!!) and they said they didnt but i was leaking fluid still so came up wednesday and now i have a cute chubby brown haired baby boy!

YAYYYYYYYYYYYY Well done Mummy of Baby bundle
I wish you every happiness for a beautiful christmas with your bundle of joy !!
You are so brave and I admire your couageous stand against a difficult set of circumstances ... So pleased for you.

Congrats & love to you & your bundle xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

missmaybe I wish you a lovely xmas with your bump and soon to be bundle of joy next year!! Yay for all new and soon to be mums... Keep sharing if you have a diff. time .Lots of people on these threads heering for you guys...Go girls!

Cheeeering!!!

Thank you, hes lovely. I love him lots and lots! I just cant believe hes here!!

I love him soooooo much

I'm 33 weeks pregnant and a lone parent to 3 boys. I've been slightly in denial of this pregnancy and have done nothing to prepare for it - I haven't so much as bought a nappy

Got a huge 'to do' list and no enthusiasm.

Thank you, i am so proud. I would do it all over again! Hes really calm and hardly cries.

He did wee on me today though, all over my dressing gown

dinosaurs you might feel abit better after you have started to get a few things, asda always have good deals on