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My x has booked his wedding day, my birthday

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fairyfly · 03/04/2006 12:56

How apt, what a marvellous gift.

My problem is though, he wants the children to go and i always want them with me on my birthday. Shall i just not make a fuss as i am with them everyday anyhow?

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welshboris · 03/04/2006 12:56

Yeah, leave them go and wish him well

then get smashed on vodka

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fairyfly · 03/04/2006 12:58

Can i get smashed on Vodka in a black veil and gate crash the wedding wailing?

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Rhubarb · 03/04/2006 12:58

I wouldn't make too much of a fuss, act graciously to be bigger than him. He probably hasn't done it deliberately. Do something nice with them the day before so that they'll be nice and tired for the next day! Wink

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fairyfly · 03/04/2006 12:59

Well i won,t see them all weekend as it is in the high high lands of Scotland, and he's going to put them in bloody skirts, bah.

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bramblina · 03/04/2006 12:59

Yes, if he's doing it for spite and a reaction, give him exactly what he doesn't want, try to ignore it and it will probably totally backfire. How sad for him that he feels he has to do something like this on what should be a lovly day! Defo the vodka Grin

beetroot · 03/04/2006 12:59

howlong since he has seen them FF?

edam · 03/04/2006 12:59

What a tosser. Would let kids go even if it is irritating - I'd want to go to my dad's wedding. They might be a bit upset afterwards though - I certainly felt a bit lost after my dad went off on honeymoon with new wife (I was 12, btw).

bluejelly · 03/04/2006 13:00

Love the idea of turning up in a black veil Grin

WideWebWitch · 03/04/2006 13:00

let them go and have a celebration with boyf. (or did you split up, can't remember?) He is a tosser, do you think he'll read some of his erm poetry?

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fairyfly · 03/04/2006 13:01

Thats a point, god knows who they will be palmed off with on the wedding night. This weekend Beetroot. But still very inconsistent. Boys seem happy enough though.

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fairyfly · 03/04/2006 13:02

Www, i was thinking that, perhaps we should go away for the weekend, stay at the same hotel, oh i would love to see their faces.

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starlover · 03/04/2006 13:03

i agree with the others! he either hasn't realised... how many men actually remember birthdays?
OR, he is doing it to get a reaction.

Let them go... wish him well and don't give him what he wants!

oh and make sure you have a nice birthday the day before/day after instead

Rhubarb · 03/04/2006 13:03

I doubt him and his gf would have arranged it on this day out of spite. Let them go with your blessing and let the past be the past. However tempting it is to throw a spanner in the works, it will only backfire on you and it's not the best way to let go of the past and concentrate on your future. Plus your kids will be watching your reaction, don't let them learn about bitterness through you.

Book a night out with some girlfriends and look on the up side! You can get totally wasted and don't have to get up the next day! Or if you do, you don't have to get up out of your bed, ifkwim!!! Wink

WideWebWitch · 03/04/2006 13:03

I want to share my life with this lady of the lamp and lake
who has made me quake
and shake
and shake
because I was a rake but
now, oh now, oh, I am undone!

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fairyfly · 03/04/2006 13:03

cringe<

he will wont he, he will recite to her, urgghhh.

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beetroot · 03/04/2006 13:03

Perhaps you need to check who they will be with on the night of the wedding. I guesss his parents are going. And I would go light a candle for the poor cow who he is marrying

beetroot · 03/04/2006 13:05

he will know it was ff birthday i am sure!!

dejags · 03/04/2006 13:05

what an arse.

sometimes I read a thread title and do a double take. It's unbelievable how callous and full of sh!t some people are.

Let him have his wedding day, do not under any circumstances let him know that it has/will upset you. That's what he's after.

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WideWebWitch · 03/04/2006 13:05

Honestly ff, he's an arse. Let them go but ask who they will be with, will lovely grandfather be there?

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fairyfly · 03/04/2006 13:06

He did realise as he told me like this............guess what i'm doing on your birthday........

Oh i wouldn't rhubarb, i've known from the begining to makes sure i'm not negative about their father. I think thats why they have come out of it secure and happy.

When he told me i was cool, i said fab, it's great we're both in love isn't it.

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HRHQueenOfQuotes · 03/04/2006 13:07

Did he used to remember your birthday (unprompted by your friends/family/kids) when you were together?? If not then he's probably not even realised.

If he was always forgetting it - then it's probably not on purpose.

HRHQueenOfQuotes · 03/04/2006 13:09

oh sorry x posts with your last one. He's just being an arse - ignore him (unless the venue the poor woman who's going to be marrying him wanted was only available then....yean right)

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fairyfly · 03/04/2006 13:09

His mum and dad wont share the same air together, so i'm not sure which parent he will pick.

I'm off to Scotland for easter and have arranged to meet grandpa, so i can ask then.

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Rhubarb · 03/04/2006 13:11

You've got a fab new life without him! You have raised 2 brilliant boys who are happy and secure and you are in love. That's your doing, your success story. If he's such an arse he'll soon make a complete hash of things and will go on making a hash of things because that's what arses do, it's their role in life. You came out the better one! Now you go book yourself a romantic weekend break with your bf!

iota · 03/04/2006 13:15

Does his intended know it's your birthday? How does she feel about her 'special day' being his ex-wifes birthday? I think I'd want to pick another day if I were her