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There's a woman I really like but...............................................!!

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YouCantCrackMeImARubberDuck · 28/03/2006 14:58

she is with someone.

We get on well and it makes me feel good to see her and to talk with her.
A similar thing happened in the uk and we ended up in the sack, but I felt guilty and so did she.

I know the woman in uk was not happy with dp but I didn't let things move on. I was worred about her leaving her partner and if it didn't work between us.

Should I say anything to the woman here or just let it go?

by the way its jmg with a trial name.

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HappyMumof2 · 28/03/2006 15:04

do you think she likes you? I suppose it would depend on whether you think she does or not. If she likes you just as a friend and you say something, you could risk frightening her off. Maybe drop a few hints and test the water a bit first? I assume she knows your single and available? Wink

btw, I'm speaking from experience, I actually asked someone out (don't know if he was with anyone) and got a bit of a blast so it's put me off a bit tbh Sad

desperateSCOUSEwife · 28/03/2006 15:08

rubberducky love the new name btw Grin

my advice is to go for it, if it is just a casual relationship with this woman and her someone
"what you dont ask for
you dont get"
is my motto

good luck
xxx

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YouCantCrackMeImARubberDuck · 28/03/2006 15:13

she is not married but defo not in a casual relationship.

She likes me, but I don't know if its just as a friend or more, I am not very good at picking up on these things. She has been with dp about 16 years, they are portuguese, have two young kids.

maybe I should leave it.

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WideWebWitch · 28/03/2006 15:14

Let it go unless and until she's single, honestly, more trouble than it's worth otherwise and possible heartbreak all round.

desperateSCOUSEwife · 28/03/2006 15:16

rubberducky I would leave it esp if they have kiddies together
it will only end in tears

alexsmum · 28/03/2006 15:16

leave it leave it leave it.
don't go looking for trouble.

expatinscotland · 28/03/2006 15:16

i agree w/www. 'what's for you won't pass you by', as the saying goes.

life is complicated enough w/o being involved w/someone who isn't free.

Carmenere · 28/03/2006 15:16

I think possibly just leave it because of the kids and partner thing. Single men are like gold dust in the UK, hang on for a while Smile

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YouCantCrackMeImARubberDuck · 28/03/2006 15:18

Can't believe I have been thinking about it. Been single for over 3 years not good.

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expatinscotland · 28/03/2006 15:19

Nothing wrong w/getting out there and dating again.

But what w/the world being as populated as it is, there must be SOMEONE fanciable out there who is not attached.

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YouCantCrackMeImARubberDuck · 28/03/2006 15:21

expat, I am beginning to wander if, beause I suddenly lost my dp/my soul mate something mentally is stopping me liking or wanting anyone who is available.

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HappyMumof2 · 28/03/2006 15:23

I wouldn't then if she's got kids and has been with someone that long.

I would have thought there would be loads of single women out there. Don't you get lots of tourists there?

In my area there seems to be a shortage of decent single men Sad

expatinscotland · 28/03/2006 15:25

Could be. But if that's the case then, crack, you're not ready to date. Sorry to be blunt, but that seems the most logical, mature conclusion.

lucy5 · 28/03/2006 15:28

I think you are right by liking someone who isnt available you know that it won't go anywhere.

WideWebWitch · 28/03/2006 15:29

Yes, that does sound likely CCMIARD. Shame though.

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YouCantCrackMeImARubberDuck · 28/03/2006 15:30

Most people come to live here as families, very few single women come to live here.

happymum, where are you, fancy a swap for a bit?
Wink

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expatinscotland · 28/03/2006 15:32

how about 'meeting' someone online then, crack? i mean, w/a handle like that, they'll come running :o.

anorak · 28/03/2006 15:33

I agree with those who say leave it. If her relationship is no good she should end it before being with someone else. Any other way is so disrespectful and deceitful - possibly not qualities you'll want in the long run.

Heaven knows you deserve a special someone but let it be someone you don't have to share.

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YouCantCrackMeImARubberDuck · 28/03/2006 15:34

ok i am off to register with a dating agent as 'you cant crack me i'm a rubber duck and I have three ducklings'

i have a big stick ready to fight them off

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bundle · 28/03/2006 15:37

re: the soulmate thing, I have a friend whose wife died in childbirth and he told me recently he was absolutely miserable (but seemed to be coping OK - he's bringing up his dd with the help of his in-laws) for about 5 years after her death. and then one day he woke up and thought he ought to Get On With Life. I don't think he could have made himself do this until he was ready though..one thing which i think contributed was when he was in the pub with some mates - they normally avoided talking about relationships etc when he was around and one night they asked him about it..how he felt on his own etc and he blubbed, in front of them. I think it was a bit of a turning point for him and he realised he'd kept everything really bottled up. Since then he's had an on-off relationship with a woman who's in a similar sort of situation to him, even though I'm not sure whether it will work out in the long term, I know it's been very good for him being back out-there, iykwim.

lou33 · 28/03/2006 15:37

i thought i recognised that story

why are you changing your name?

WideWebWitch · 28/03/2006 15:39

Good, I think a dating agency is a very good idea. Good luck.

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YouCantCrackMeImARubberDuck · 28/03/2006 15:40

how are you today lou?

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lou33 · 28/03/2006 15:41

I'll pass on that question before i start ranting.

How are you?

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YouCantCrackMeImARubberDuck · 28/03/2006 15:42

ok, but have to get kids, laters

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