Having managed to stand up for DD and not cave in to my ex's bullying, there are a few issues coming up that I need to deal with and would welcome suggestions on the best way.
DD (11) is 50:50 care - one week with each of us. She is starting a new school in A couple of weeks. Ex works full time, I WFH.
Ex has not told me, or DD, his plans for her after school on the days she's with him. When I asked him about it months ago, he said he didn't have anything confirmed but anticipated that she would either do homework in the library, go to friends houses and sometimes go to her step-mums mums house until he got home from work. He might be able to be at home after school some days, too.
DD has said she would like to be able to come here if her Dad isn't at home, rather than have to go to the library, a friends house although she would probably do those sometimes.
How could I approach this? Ex's position is that when DD is with him, he is in charge and I should trust him - but I think I've got a responsibility to know, in general, what she might be able to get up to before her Dad gets home from work!
He'll undoubtedly tell me that it's none of my business - but what, if anything, can/should I do if he refuses to talk to me about it?
There's no CO, and mediation are refusing to take us due to previous experience!