Not sure if this is the right category in which to post this thread so apologies in advance if im breaking any rules.
Just wondering if anybody could offer any advice.
I guess i should start off by clarifying that I am a dad and not a mum. Myself and my partner split when our son was only 3 months old, and she has denied me access to him for the last 7 weeks and will not even send me a photo. I'd like to state that I have done nothing wrong. I wasnt abusive to her and never mistreated her. We simply wern't getting on. However she is from a weathly backround, and i am not. Her family have always looked down on me and dont think im good enough for her or my son. I have a steady job and have never been in trouble with the police, never even had so much as a parking ticket. Everything is now going through solicitors, but she has offered me only 2 supervised visits a week. supervised by her mum, who has never liked me. Her mum is an intimidating and provoking person. Im afraid that if i accept supervised access by her mum, is it her mum who would ultimately have the deciding vote on if im 'capable' or 'safe' to be around my own child with unsupervised contact?? My ex has accused me of being an alcoholic and a drug abuser, which are completely unfounded claims. I do not drink and do not use drugs. Preferably i'd like to have this dealt with by a court who can give a structured plan, and if they decide i needed supervised access, at least it will be by an unbiased third party, who will no doubt see that i am no danger to my son in a very short period of time. However if i go through a contact centre, i will only be able to see my son every other saturday, instead of twice a week. twice a week is obviously a better start, but it will be supervised by someone who has no intention of letting me be alone with my son, and will no doubt lie to make me seem a bad person. The lies the family are capable of, and the way they have treated me, would shock and sicken any normal human being.
Can anybody offer any advice on this and how supervised contact would work, if it was supervised by a family member of hers? would there also be a social worker of some sort overlooking everything?