what did you do [rebel]after split?

[almostanangel]

so come on what was your first thing you did that you couldnt do before,,ie hair cut tattoo etc

lol

Shagged the person he thought I was having an affair with - I wasn't, until he put the thought into my head so I broke up with him

ripped all his clothes and shoes up
got some bleedin peace at last

let the house be a little bit untidy
didn't do his tax return
ate cake for supper
let ds get all his toys out & make a mess
didn't get dressed until mid morning at the weekends
relaxed
stopped worrying about what mood he'd be in
stopped cleaning the kitchen floor daily

Sounds really sad, but all of those things felt like an enormous rebellion to me at the time.

This is a lovely thread for me to read. Today is my first day of life as a lone parent i feel incredibly sad at the moment, and not sure if i did the right thing. Very glad to hear about things i've got to look forward to

watched the TV I wanted to watch
cooked the food I wanted to eat
wore the clothes I wanted to wear
read the books I wanted to read
went on the internet when I felt like it
went on a peace march
went on a work day out with colleagues
met girl friends for drinks
flirted (didnt miss that when I was married, but enjoyed doing it again)
went shopping

my list is endless!

oooh yes, thank you Bugsy - stopped worrying about what mood he was in.

Sorry to hear your news Hattie. The early days are very tough, but I'm sure it will get better for you.
Thank you Nightynight for the Going Out one - had forgotten that I never went out!!!

Got a pet kitten
Decorated the house the way'I' wanted it
Spent weekends in our p'js
Let the kids stay up as late as they could they could manage at weekends
Allow myself and my kids the time to breathe!!
Left the dishes till the next morning,nows its reaching the afternoon .
Go to bed at 8pm if im tired and not have to worry that he'll moan at being left alone,or expect me to stay up with him!

LIVE LIFE FOR MY KIDS AND I!!!
I love being a single parent in all aspects of the words!!!

this is brill .my lone parent hood [as if i wasnt anyway for what hes done] stars in 2 weeks if fingers crossed the mine and the kids new house goes ok ,,so im looking for insperation!
i like listen to music without him turning it down ,,the mood thing ,,that is sooo true.

Hattie
hugs
xxx

Lost 4 stone, bought new clothes, and getting new hairstyle tomorow......

Let the house get untidy, spent loads of time on mumsnet,

done what i want when i want to basically ......

positive
bought a throw & cushions for the bed (wasnt allowed)
moved computer downstairs
enjoy weekends cos kids & I can lie in bed watching TV & then get up & play - b4 had to go downstairs while H lay in bed til 9am etc etc
had my hair cut short - everyone says suits me
house now tidier
started evening classes & doing things for myself which I never did since had kids

negative
have put on weight as hate myself BUT am working on that

chopped my waist length hair off! since grown it back but was good at time coz i knew he would hate it short, let house get untidy and he had nerve when dd was 6 weeks old to comment that floors looked like they needed a good clean!!

been there nulnulcat!!

I came home once when H had been visiting kids & they had "tidied the back garden and hoovered for me"

why the f#ck couldnt he have done that when he lived with us

how fab you all are!!! go forth and enjoy

This was a long long time ago when I was engaged to someone else, we split when I found he had got someone pregnant.

I took his cards and bought an expensive hi-fi and leather jacket then put all his belongings in the front garden, including tele, radio etc, all his collectable cars etc and then laughed out of the window as is started raining and ruined most of it, he turned up after it had been raining about an hour and it was hilarious watching him rush to try and get things in his car.

Thank you desperatscousewife, Mumsnet is great for stopping me feeling alone

hattie, i'm here every weds and thurs from 7-11pm if you're ever lonely x

Thanks alliebaba

i just feel so mixed up at the moment. now that dp has gone, i feel like i want a break and then see if we can make things work. I'm thinking of getting some counselling to help me understand this mess which is in my head at the moment

have a one night stand. and another. and another . . . :o.

sounds like a great idea.. it helps to speak to someone impartial and without their emotions involved.. friends/family will always want to protect you. nice to have an honest opinion. Take care and chin up x

i went out and bought a £60 blue leather jacket which i have adored since (but sadly havent been able to get into for about 4 years!) (out of fashion now anyway). well, he used to get us into debt and steal money from my purse. i reckoned he owed it me! all of a sudden i was living in our house and he was paying all the bills and mortgage (for the first three months of our split, out of guilt i guess). as for everything else, i was never not "allowed" to do anything, i always did what i wanted to anyway whether he liked it or not!