Would you STOP contact !!!!

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Well im a dad and a main carer for a 4, 5 and 7 year old, ss have been involved for a while now, but are going to close the case, i am still at court and have a shared care residence order. kids go to there mums 3 nights ( i have concerns about mums behaviour) when kids are with her.

the kiddies mum has a new partner who now lives with her, she met him in January and kids have met him, well this weekend her BF is walking around naked not a thing on and i am extremely upset about it..have spoke to solicitor and ss and have been told i have to send the kids for contact even though everyone tells me its disgusting there is nothing i can do about it, what would you do, should i stop contact even though i have been told i could be the one in trouble with the courts for breeching the court order...

i know what i want to do but would like to hear what others think...thanks for any replies.

If you are going to stop contact you need to protect yourself, send her a formal letter specifying your concerns about a specific incident, if nothing changes, then you have the upper hand and proof that you tried to sort the problem before restricting contact.

I have to say though, that the courts are unlikely to pay much attention to this, at the end of the day it's your word against hers.

Bertie, my children often see me naked (because the little sods insist on running into my room or the bathroom even if I ask them not to- older one is only just getting better about this at 10 ffs), and their dad sometimes, but I wouldn't be ok with them seeing my boyfriend naked really. I suppose if the child is too young to know it wouldn't bother me. But there is a difference between it being a family member and another person I feel. I know it's not very rational, and I probaby wouldn't stop contact if I thought they'd seen ex's girlfriend naked tbh, but I would feel very uncomfortable with it. Obviously not if e.g. boyfriend wasn't really naked but say had just come out of shower in a towel, but if he's wandering around naked I dunno, I would just feel 'eh that's not something I want my kids to see!'