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when was the last time you had sex or any type of intimacy?

52 replies

festi · 27/02/2012 00:29

to loooooooooooong. will i never have sex again?

have dated strangers, from internet, bars, had friends with benifits, so to speak, now nothing, nadah, no one. where do you meet people. im socialble, ok looking but I have not met anyone for the past probably 2 years.

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TheSinglePringle · 27/02/2012 00:32

I have been single a while now and havent spoke to a man unless hes behind a till or handing me a take away Blush

Wouldn't have a clue where to start either

ProcrastinationStation · 27/02/2012 00:34

19 months, 24 days Sad beginning to think I will never have sex again! Would help if I didn't work in an entirely female environment, and actually went out occasionally Grin I think I am beginning to loose the plot as I am getting so frustrated!

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festi · 27/02/2012 00:39

I know how you are both feeling. I dont ever think about it realy but have today felt like I have needed something other than what I have...a shag basicaly.

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festi · 27/02/2012 00:41

actualy not even a shag just some company other than friends family and dcs.

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Cantthinkofafunnynickname · 27/02/2012 15:10

tell me about it

been 5 months since a guy - 13 months since a girl

Would love some sex!!!

happybubblebrain · 27/02/2012 18:36

Years and I don't miss it one bit.

slowginny · 27/02/2012 19:19

Almost, just before Christmas, then he said (in a Turkish accent for he is Turkish) "I wanna be making the love to you allllllll night" and I thought, all night? really? all night?, can't we just cuddle afterwards? Anyway, didn't happen and we drifted apart.

sillymillyb · 27/02/2012 19:39

aprox 36 weeks ago according to the midwives Blush

I don't know if I miss the sex so much as the cuddles / someone to watch tv with, so im with you on that festi

BettyPerske · 27/02/2012 19:42

Lol, SlowGinny Grin I like the sound of him.

me, approximately 7 hours ago. in the hallway.

before that, I mean before fairly recently it was AGES and boy I missed it. But you do sort of forget unless there's someone you want to do it with and you can't forget about it. iykwim

tentative123 · 27/02/2012 19:43

3 days.

bochead · 27/02/2012 19:44

7/8 years

sillymillyb · 27/02/2012 19:45

I take it back... it obviously isn't just the company I crave - betty and tentative* you have made me jealous!

TheOriginalNutcracker · 27/02/2012 19:47

Just over a year ago. That was the end of a 12mths no strings thing that ended badly.

Before that it was 5 looooooong years lol.

Possibly, might start seeing someone else soon, but can't make my flippin mind up.

FlatCapAndAWhippet · 27/02/2012 20:39

5 years ago Sad

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festi · 27/02/2012 20:39

congrats though sillymillyb hope you are well. And lol at @ slowginny he sounds hard work.

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IAmBooyhoo · 27/02/2012 20:44

2nd of october last year. and i had to fly to get it as apparantly no-one in this country wants to have sex with me.

BettyPerske · 27/02/2012 20:53

Oh don't be jealous. I was in that non-intimate place for years, I mean aside from the odd, and I mean generally rather odd 'boyfriend' who I didn't get that intimate with very often because he was a knob end, though I tried to convince myself otherwise. I think I've only had sex about 9 or 10 times since my nearly 5yo was conceived. (Well obviously until recently)

Current dp is not a knob end as far as I know but frankly even if he is I don't care because the erm, intimacy is so spectacular.

I think I'm making up for the years of tumbleweed. Just when you think it will never happen, it does. Really it does.

Amaris · 27/02/2012 21:01

Nearly two years. I'm not so bothered about the sex but it would be nice to have someone to snuggle with in bed and to just potter around with. On the other hand it might be really annoying to have someone getting in my way now I'm so used to being on my own (actually I was pretty much on my own most of the seven years I was with XP). Maybe that's why I fail to find anyone! I meet lots of new people, but no one I actually like. I probably don't really give of "available" vibes though....

IAmBooyhoo · 27/02/2012 21:04

betty when i went to threads i'm on, only "Oh don't be jealous. I was in that non-intimate place" was showing. i mis-read it and thought you had said "it was IN that non-intimate place" i was trying to work out whether you meant a non-intimate place in the house or on your body Blush

IAmBooyhoo · 27/02/2012 21:05

sorry, emhasis should have been on IT rather than IN.

BettyPerske · 27/02/2012 21:08

I don't think I miss having someone in the house very much. I like my own space as I'm so used to it.

But I think it's really rare to meet someone you really click with...I mean I waited 12 years nearly, from the first big 'click' to the second. During those 12 years I've met a lot of people I quite liked, several I talked myself into relationships with, and found I didn't like that much after all, and one or two who I was quite close to but it never took off. But only one that was just automatically and instantly 'for me'.

I think it's quality, not quantity if you see what I mean...almost like I didn't mind waiting so long because when he did turn up, finally, I was in a position myself where I could be happy with him. You tend to do a lot of work on yourself when you're not with someone, I think.

It can be really painful to be alone though and if I'm honest I was getting to that place where I felt like I was treading water, and getting very tired of being alone. And now I'm not entirely sure I understand the concept of being 'with someone', or believe it's necessary - but obviously something in us makes us want it.

BettyPerske · 27/02/2012 21:08

Booy Grin

the mind boggles!

AllDirections · 27/02/2012 21:17

Nearly 6 years ago, when I was 3 months pregnant with DD3 :(

Cantthinkofafunnynickname · 28/02/2012 11:59

need to find myself a FWB

cuteboots · 28/02/2012 13:41

since last October if we are talking full on shaggage action! Have met a bloke who I thought could be good potentially for the FWB scenario but as of Saturday night and despite him snogging my face off he has decided he only wants the freinds bit and no benefits! Very frustrating!!