What do you intend to do about it?

[useyourloaf]

NRP ExP tells me via a note....

...that he is pissed off because he had DS 2.9 today and DS was tired at midday and everything was "no, no, no".

ExP tells me that when DS is with him and new family he sleeps well, is happy and the negativity is gone and is replaced with a confident, happy boy.

He continues that I am being unfair to my son that he doesn't sleep enough because he misses out on quality family time and they are unable to eat together in a restaurant because DS is too tired and negative.

He finishes with "what do you intend to do about it"?

I am at a bit of loss as to how to answer. Any suggestions?

Keep all communication from him. It will be very useful to your solicitor.

Don't allow him to influence your behaviour in this way; he will always something to criticise, no matter what you do? How dare you not take him to the doc? How dare you take him to the doc? It's quite ridiculout, and is done entirely to ensure you are living in a constant state of doubt and uncertainty. Don't do it. If you feel yourself wavering, come here instead.

Thanks Jux. I've kept all communcation from last few weeks - there's lots of it!

When he began shouting at me on the phone yesterday because it had been two hours since I last took DS's tempertaure, I actually began to panic and could feel physical symptoms of panic too. I began to believe that I was in the wrong and was neglecting my sons needs - doubt and uncertainty are exactly the seeds that were sown.

ATM its MN that's keeping me strong. So thanks. X

I am still new to this whole singlemother thing, but thankgod things seem to be settling down with exp. He gave me a very hard time, e.g: nasty texts, trying manipulate, telling me I could not cope, guilt trips etc. Well, the great news is I am finally starting to feel free from him. I gave no response to nasty texts and if he gets angry now I hang up the phone. You do not have to listen to it anymore, THANKGOD!!. How amazing is that?!. It took me years to make the break and do you know what the best bit is? I am coping!!.
Believe me, it will get better. He has no power over you, so start reclaiming yours. Remind yourself every day how strong you are in breaking away from him, and how your life is so much better for it.
Ignore seems be general advice, I would agree. Make boundaries and stick to them.
The best of luck to you, thinking of you.