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Plenty of Fish - why all the young guys as 'matches'?

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LineRunner · 28/01/2012 21:14

I've just registered, thanks to encouragement from MNetters. All I want is a few nice nights out.

I haven't done a photo yet though, as I'm sat here in front of the webcam with a cold and zits.

The thing that fucks me off is that I'm 48, nearly 49. I look it. Why are most of the suggested matches 41, 42, 43? They really wouldn't want me. It would be embarrassing to meet them.

I've changed my profile to add a couple of years.

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MitchieInge · 01/02/2012 13:12

Yes, the relationship. They all say that but are they under the impression that it's something women want? I've only had a proper conversation with one of prospective dates so far about what that means. It was interesting, he was like me really, not particularly a fan of one night stands but quite a few hangups about ultimately going all the way and cohabiting. It's difficult at our age (40s) who wants to give up their own house and merge what is an otherwise quite full life with someone else? It is quite terrifying.

I like the way he wants to pace things and if nothing else will have added to my group of friends. Don't think he is going to be very exciting sexually though. But last one I had a searing, white hot connection with was a bit creepy. I should be old enough to know better.

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LineRunner · 01/02/2012 13:37

Yes, that sounds a very astute analysis, Mitchie.

I've got a horrible feeling I'm only sexually attracted to wrong 'uns.

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MitchieInge · 01/02/2012 16:22

yes, but are you going to meet nice email anyway just to see what he is like in person? You could gain another friend at least?

looking over my shoulder while I post this but can't quite put the creepy wrong'un down - especially now we've established neither of us will be pooing on the other - luckily he lives with my best friend so how bad can it get? a little awkward at most, when we stop? I love how instant the physical attraction was and how we were not looking for another. I love meeting people naturally.

Coffee with the sensible choice tomorrow, assuming I feel better (spewing on and off all day) then I think I will delete my dating thing for a while. I can only cope with one or two at a time!

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LineRunner · 01/02/2012 22:31

I think I might just delete delete for a while. It's causing me stress which was never the intention!

The nice one googled me.

Is that normal?

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purpleroses · 01/02/2012 22:49

Yes!
I've always googled people - just a way of checking out if they're genuine really. (though I'd never let on )

MitchieInge · 01/02/2012 23:00

I googled the ones I was interested in.

I think if you google my full name a porn star is using it!

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LineRunner · 01/02/2012 23:02

Oh, so he's interested in me?

I think I would like him to be friends with. Do I just tell him that?

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MitchieInge · 01/02/2012 23:10

you could meet and 'see what happens', and say at the very least it would be nice to be friends?

not really in position to suggest ideas, have only done something like this once before and I met a spankoholic who kept writing to (and about) me every other month for about three years

the reason I think I will be friends with my Nice One is because we have lots of friends in common and he feels like someone I'd be friends with anyway. I am blatantly going to call him in the morning and be too unwell though. That might put him off?

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LineRunner · 01/02/2012 23:14

Too unwell to what? To meet him?

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MitchieInge · 01/02/2012 23:19

yeah, sorry, have been very spewy. Everything hurts.

me and about thirty other people who all went to a first birthday party at the weekend. It will sound like a silly excuse won't it? Can't help that though.

so you ARE meeting nice email?

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LineRunner · 01/02/2012 23:50

No. I think I'll hibernate for another year.

Sorry about the mass food poisoning thing. He'll have to accept the truth. Why would you make that up, and why would he not believe you?

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MitchieInge · 02/02/2012 12:54

Ah, well it was viral, dozens have it (my cleaner won't even step foot in my house for another 48 hours!) and he did believe me - I was being silly. Like him a lot and am going to train self to value the nice ones and steer my energies in that direction. At very least he will be someone to ride out with, do rural pursuits with etc., but our paths would have crossed eventually anyway. This community is too small.

Why hibernate for a whole year though? That seems like a very very very long time?

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LineRunner · 02/02/2012 20:32

OK, springtime, maybe!

Are you better yet?

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MitchieInge · 02/02/2012 20:34

Almost there thanks :)

so what do you think about specialist introduction agencies, or organized events for singles, supper club things - would you give something like that a whirl?

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LineRunner · 02/02/2012 22:11

My sister met her lovely 2nd husband at a dinner club.

I have a friend who wants me to go with her to a singles event.

I think I'm just a bit scared after my crap track record of picking men who turn out not to actually like me very much.

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MitchieInge · 02/02/2012 22:18

Shall we swap lives? Mine like me too much (and not in a nice way). I wonder when I will get my comeuppance, actually fall for someone and be spurned?

I am interested in the idea of singles events but might they be a bit cattle markety? Think you should bravely go and report back to us!

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