Am I being ungrateful and unrealistic?

[NotaDisneyMum]

I'm having a moment of self doubt and need opinions.

DD10s dad is hands on and involved; I don't always agree with his parenting decisions, but she's never been put at risk so I allow him to get on with it when DDs with him (50%)

I do struggle with his insistence that we 'co-parent' and his determination to secure my agreement to every decision he makes - and his sheer unwillingness to accept that I don't/won't always agree with him.

Am I being selfish/unrealistic to expect to be able to parent my way and give him the space to do the same? Is it really better for DD if her Dad and I spend hours of our time distracted by discussions over day-to-day decisions, rather than accepting that we do things differently?

I've got a one to one with a mediator tomorrow (he has requested mediation) - is my position unreasonable?

Fluffy - infuriating, isn't it?!?

In my case, one of the reasons that the marriage 'failed' because exH built up huge resentment over things he had agreed to do 'to keep me happy' including relocating and career progression!

Now he no longer knows 'how I feel' he's lost his rudder in terms of making decisions but rather than work out how to steer the ship himself, he's demanding and dictating that I give him direction in the way he wants to hear it!

I dont agree with that point about all mediators. It's like any profession, there will be good and there will be bad.