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Is it just me who does this??

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SNOWaMANda · 14/12/2005 08:17

I have no family and it's just me and dd. She is 6. She fully expects Santa to bring me presents, too, but the reality is this year there is noone to buy for me. Her dad won't think to get me something from her so I have taken to buying myself a few little things, wrapping them and will put them under the tree as if they're from Santa. She'd be really upset if she thought I was being left out so I do this for her benefit.

Anyone else? Or am I the only sad git with noone to buy me presents??

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TheVillageIdiot · 14/12/2005 08:32

I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I would do that to if I were in your position! Besides - it's nice to treat yourself!!!

Go for it! Last year I bought myself a new tv for my Christmas present to me (I always buy myself something around Christmas anyway)

Hope you and your dd have a lovely Christmas day x

christmaslovingbluealien · 14/12/2005 08:34

well, im married, but dh wont ever think to get me a pressie. and at the age of six, ds1 was very upset that i didnt get one too

nailpolish · 14/12/2005 08:34

amanda, i think its lovely that you are worried about your dd worrying about you

and at least you know you will like what santa brings you!

i hope you and your dd have a happy christmas xxx

Kirstie76 · 14/12/2005 08:36

I agree with TheVillageIdiot ... I think it's nice to treat yourself and always by myself at least one Christmas present/birthday present as at least that way I know I'll be getting something I want as well as all those things that are nice but end up in boxes year after year!

This year my present to me was a set of photos of ds - no one else would buy me that would they?

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SNOWaMANda · 14/12/2005 09:15

Yes, at least I'm getting what I want and it means dd is happy, too!

And I do forget that sometimes dps and dhs can be rubbish at getting presents anyway!

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TheVillageIdiot · 14/12/2005 09:26

My mum buys me a present from dd which is nice of her but always buy myself something. Sounds like you and your dd are close

Bozza · 14/12/2005 09:33

I think that is a lovely idea amanda. Its nice that you are doing your best to make Christmas special for your DD.

weesaidie · 14/12/2005 10:29

Ha ha! My dd got me a present this year and last!And she is only 20 months so has no idea she is doing it! lol...

I love it!

Rose32 · 14/12/2005 15:31

hey, that's a really good idea. I hadn't thought of that. Of course it is essential that mummy gets presents from Santa too, after all she has been good all year, hasn't she?
I'll get a couple of presents from relatives, but I think Santa might bring me one as well now.

Kirstie76 · 14/12/2005 15:36

My ex-dh once bought me a swimming membership and told me i needed to lose weight - not something i wanted to know at christmas!!!!! good job i'd bought myself the feel good gift!!!!!

HarkTheHeraldAIMSMUMsings · 14/12/2005 15:44

I always buy myself a gift from my DD at christmas too....she is usually very generous

Alyhough I do get something from my xp from her too....

MistletoeMiggins · 14/12/2005 21:41

this is interesting....I have bought H a present from the kids but I bet he doesnt buy me one
I couldnt decide whether to buy myself one from Santa so that my children dont ask where mine is and I dont want H to feel bad on Xmas day

Kirstie76 · 14/12/2005 22:12

MisletoeMiggins, I've been a reader on some of your other threads and I think you should buy yourself a gift - not to make your ex feel better but to make you feel better .. indulge in a little self pampering!

crimbocrazydazy · 14/12/2005 22:15

at christmasbluealien, why doesn't he buy you anything? Women love pressies even if they are small ones as its a way that they feel cared for.

I would have slung him out years ago. Do you buy him anything?

GoodQueenSpursmum · 14/12/2005 22:16

I freely admit to buying myself a few treats as no one in my family will ever think to buy me something from my ds. But then my mother does tell me that she would happily ignore me if I didn't have ds!!

MistletoeMiggins · 14/12/2005 22:18

I might just do that Kirstie76...trouble is I have never been one for buying myself things - H used to drag me round the clothes shops picking clothes - was one of his good points - loved (and was good) at shopping for clothes for me....I might treat myself to a nice bag though

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SNOWaMANda · 14/12/2005 22:18

I wrapped my presents tonight...from Santa of course. I want dd to enjoy Christmas and she would definitely notice that I didn't get anything. Makes it better for her which is the real reason. Her dad doesn't think to get me anything from her. We always buy him something though. Makes me feel that I'm better than him. Hell, we even buy a present for his partner because it means a lot to dd.

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moondog · 14/12/2005 22:21

Ah snow..that's so poignant.
I always leave a present for myself under the tree-I have a family but it's just for a laugh.My grandmother used to do it too!
MrsM.....why are you buying your toad of an H a present from the children???
This is NOT your responsibility!!Stop looking after him!!!

GoodQueenSpursmum · 14/12/2005 22:21

I don't buy anything for ds' father as I don't know where the w*nker is and I'm not that gracious when me and my ds have been wronged.
You're a fabulous mum Snowamanda!

MistletoeMiggins · 14/12/2005 22:21

wow
hope I am like you next yr Snowamanda

I will deffo buy myself something then....I think DS would vbe upset if Father Christmas doesnt buy me something

unfortunately he has asked him for a digital camera for me - my budget wont stretch to that !!!

MistletoeMiggins · 14/12/2005 22:22

cos Moondog I dont want DS asking why Father Christmas hasnt bought daddy a present

whatever I think of H, my children love him and I dont want to turn into horrible BM....

polly28 · 14/12/2005 22:23

you sound like a lovely mum snowamanda,hope you have a great xmas with your dd.

moondog · 14/12/2005 22:24

Huh! I'd tell him this. Let him deal with it,or the other woman.

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SNOWaMANda · 14/12/2005 22:25

It's taken me a while to be this good, trust me. The thing I am dreading the most is waking up dd-less on Xmas morning as she's with her dad. Not so bad but I'll be completely alone. I'm trying not to dwell on it and am thinking ahead to next year when I will have her.

I don't like sharing her but realise I have no choice. I just think it sucks that her dad who only sees her every other weekend and refuses to help if I need someone to have her overnight for work or whatever gets the fun of Christmas morning. I do all the work, he gets all the fun. Not fair but part of the single parent process.

Mrs M, you definitely need to get yourself something. You deserve it after everything you've been through and continue to go through.

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crimbocrazydazy · 14/12/2005 22:26

Oh Mrs Miggins, you shoud wrap a bottle of 99p bubble bath up from Morrisons then. Make sure its buy one get one free and then you get one too.

Thats all he would get off me and I would do that would only for the kids.