How old should DD be before I take her on holiday ?

[GentlemanGin]

DD is 2.8 years old, myself and XP agreed that at the moment she's too young to go away with me for a week or two, debatable but let's leave it at that.

How old do people think she should be before I take her away somewhere, likely to be 7 - 10 days in Europe with me, her Gran and Grandad.

DD stays with me alternate w/e, anywhere between 2 and 4 nights , we have a very good relationship and I'm a gentle, responsible, loving Dad.

What say ye ? I'm thinking next summer.

Vibrant, that's quite funny ( ha ha ) and lovely that you have such a good relationship with your dsd . I'm assuming dsd means 'dear step daughter'.

Yeah, I'm quite patient so I'm prepared for the long game.

And thankyou.

Not always, exotic. Of course there are some ex-wives like that, but what about the other case, where the ex-husband is really sporadic about contact and then suddenly shows up out of the blue demanding to have overnight contact/whisk DC away on holiday?

(Not saying GentlemanGin is one of these, he sounds very responsible)

I am only talking about GentlemanGin who sounds a responsible parent who is putting DC first. Each case on their merits.

agree with you exotic fruits. Gentleman G sounds obviously has put a lot of thought into everything and knows the delicate negotiation that is required with EXP!!

Don't go to court! waste of time and money. your ex is coming round, let her do it that way and you will all be ok. It's really not worth the fight if your ex is coming round in her own time. Give her a bit of credit, she backed down so she's obviously into the idea of your child being with you. Court will let you slag each other off until neither of you can stand each other, solicitors will take your money so they can send their own kids to private school while you both can't pay your gas bill and your child will be thoroughly miserable with you both. I speak from experience. She's coming round, it's going to be ok. Take deep breaths. It'll be fine. Don't forget though, alot of kids mind separation more at different stages of their lives. What they were ok with at 2 won't be right at 5 and if you feel you're taking backward steps sometimes, that's right and normal. Big picture, long haul

If you read his posts mrsmcv, he is a very sensible man who is doing exactly that!!