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Don't you just hate the smug marrieds on here who obviously are perfect mothers!

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MrsS01 · 21/06/2011 20:23

Grrrr

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MrsS01 · 21/06/2011 20:25

and pass judgement without knowing your situation and experiencing life as a single parent and how hard it can be. Again grrrr

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SuePurblybilt · 21/06/2011 20:28

Erm, no. It annoys me sometimes in RL, the assumption that having a husband improves your parenting regardless, but I've not experienced it on MN, quite the reverse.
Anyway, I'm a fecking amazing parent Smile

MavisEnderby · 21/06/2011 20:30

Oh dear.Hands Wine .

tbh I don't think I have come across many posters I actively dislike but I agree unless you have actually been there it is very hard to really understand how hard it is to be a LP.

have you had a really shitey day??

GypsyMoth · 21/06/2011 20:32

smug marrieds?

go on the relationships section,most of the 'D'h's are fooling around on dating websites/having affairs/facebook friendships with ex's etc etc!!

not so smug then eh?

StayFrosty · 21/06/2011 20:33

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GypsyMoth · 21/06/2011 20:33

and the moaning about all these dh's who dont do any housework.....no,i'd rather be on my own

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MrsS01 · 21/06/2011 20:34

Sorry for ranting:(

I'm fine, I just posted a 'what would you do in my situation' and had mostly constructive replies apart from one who told me to stop treating my child as a pawn in my silly games!

To give you details of my situation, I've been a LP since my XH had an affair and walked out on me and my baby 9 years ago, seeing him for an hour a week, paying no maintenance. So I've brought my DC up single handedly making a bl*y good job of it, always putting him 1st before myself (unlike his father). Oh dear, I'm still ranting - sorry :(

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MrsS01 · 21/06/2011 20:35

Tiffany - thanks that put a smile on my face :)

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smallwhitecat · 21/06/2011 20:36

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MavisEnderby · 21/06/2011 20:37

Carry on ranting...one of the flip sides of LP is that often when you are feeling particularly ranty there is no one to rant at unless you do a Shirley Valentine stylee "Hello wall" and vent to inanimate objects....I had a great rant at my washing machine the other night:o

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MrsS01 · 21/06/2011 20:37

StayFrosty- yes I suppose so. But I asked what they'd do in my situation, not asking to be judged.

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MrsS01 · 21/06/2011 20:38

smallwhitecat :)

no gym gear in my house :)

Thanks :)

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StayFrosty · 21/06/2011 20:42

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girliefriend · 21/06/2011 20:42

yes and in rl as well, married couples are annoying!!!

swanker · 21/06/2011 20:46

You know the rest of MN can actually see the LP board Hmm
I know you're venting, but it's not nice to bitch.
I don't think anyone who parents in a couple does not realise just how tough it is for LPs, and just looking at active convoys makes one very aware that it comes out of the blue for many.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 21/06/2011 21:00

I used to be one of those

GypsyMoth · 21/06/2011 21:03

yes,well aware rest of MN can see the LP board...

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 21/06/2011 21:03

And if you think it's tough being a lone parent, you wanna try being a married parent with a fucking useless husband who doesn't support you and only serves to make things worse.

Life is much easier as a single parent, which I was effectively anyway.

WillIEverBeASizeTen · 21/06/2011 21:31

OP, nobody is a perfect parent just like nobody is perfect period! We just all do our best for the DCs.

I'm a LP and like NSASMN had a DP who was an evil useless knob (still is BTW) and parenting was far harder than it is now alone.

Like Tiff says, all is not always what it seems. No one knows what goes on behind the nets.

sunshineandbooks · 21/06/2011 22:17

Well I think there are a few notable posters on MN who clearly think that all LPs are somehow failing their DC because nothing can compare to a two-parent family. However, as I know they are talking shite I tend not to let it get to me. Wink

I have this personal theory that the smugger the married person, the crapper their relationship is - they're just in denial so have to run you down to prove it. Like NSASMN says, it is definitely easier to be a single parent than married to a twat, especially if you're pretending to be pollyanna and insisting that everything on the home front is absolutely wonderful.

Most married people I deal with in RL as well as on MN are actually very supportive. I think the LP-hating brigade are mostly consigned to Daily Mail editorial fantasies.

circlehead · 21/06/2011 23:36

ARRgghh, don't get me started on the Daily fricking Mail!!

PaigeTurner · 22/06/2011 13:28

Don't get me started on "effectively a lone parent" arghhh!

oldraver · 22/06/2011 19:52

I live in an area of quite high proportion of 'marrieds'. When DS was at pre-school I was the only single Mum and even at school there are very few

Especially at pre-school I have never heard so much moaning at how 'hard' it is to have their kids. Sooo hard as dh had to go into work for a few extra hours, that they couldn't come home for dinner etc. There wasn't a day went by without some whinging and lots of joining in

I admit I sniggered a lot

GypsyMoth · 22/06/2011 19:59

the 'effectively a single parent' line winds me up too!!

what a load of rubbish!!

gapants · 22/06/2011 20:02

My neighbour is a LP and she is a bit of an inspiration to me, so don't lump us all as "smug marrieds", some of us respect and admire LPs.