ex shipping kids off to unknown person during his weekend

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my young son came home after seeing his dad earlier this week and said that he would be going to a football match with his dad this weekend(his dads weekend to have him) and whilst they do this his younger sister will be staying with dads colleque from work

i tex ex asking who this person was but as usual got no reply. i then texed him to say i was home doing nothing and could have her.
he replied that he would discuss it with her, she is 6.

i replied that it was not for a six year old to make these desitions so he texed back that he had cancelled the arrangement

i then had to assume im haveing her instead, on my weekend, lucky i didnt arrange to go away!!

my question is , is he allowed to give the kids on to someone i or the kids dont know, if not how do i go about inforcing this as i feel i have no say over what he does when he has the kids

I agree with most of the posters who say you might have to let this go. You have to trust his parental ability until you have a reason not too. Of course it's natural to worry but he may also worry when the children are with you and I guess you would feel very uncomfortable if he questioned your judgement or asked questions about who the children see. If you posted a thread reversing the situation (i.e your ex demanding to know how the babysitter was) you would be told your ex is controlling.
I know this is the hardest part of being a separated parent - you have to let go and trust the other parent as insisting on certain rules for the other parent just creates conflict.

Ultimately you need to judge his parenting on how the children are, are they happy to see him, do they enjoy their time with him.

It is such a difficult thing to do for some parents, to trust the NRP with their DC.
I discovered when my DD was 2 that my ex has had allegations of sexual abuse of a minor made against him 4 times by three different girls.
My solicitor says this is no reason to breach the current court order, since none of these allegations were proven, even though one got to the CPS before it was dropped.
I am still supposed to hand DD over for a whole weekend every fortnight, even though my ex has admitted to SS, police (and now my solicitor knows) that he examines DD all over every weekend, including in her mouth and a detailed inspection of her genitals, which he has then been known to compile a report on and send off to SS and the police.
I am still expected to hand DD over every other weekend, because he has not been convicted of anything and until he is actually convicted of sexual abuse of a minor, I apparently have no reason not to trust him.