All you happily single - come and talk to me pls!

[Polaris]

I am gathering up the courage to leave DH. Long story, but I just want to move on. Have 2 DCs - 6 and 2.

The thought of single life just really appeals to me, but the few people that I hve spoken to tell me not to think the grass is greener and tell me it's hard to find another partner,

Well, I don't WANT another partner. I want to have lots of friends, be able to persue my interests freely, build up my business and build up my social life again. I don't really feel as if sex is ever that important to me that i need to find a man. I can do without it!

I need some happily singles who are living the life and are not preoccupied with copping off with someone. I feel as if I'm the only one who can possibly contemplate a happy single life, but know I'll find some like-minded others on here. So c'mon, tell me I'm not going make the transition and then find out that yes, I really do have to have a bloody man in my life to make me complete..

I thank you :)

Me too - very happily single, in fact I wouldn't have it any other way now. I don't get much help with my LO but we have great fun together and have built up a great circle of friends - our social life is actually better now than ever. I love the freedom of having my own space without the fear / antagonism / grumpiness.

You don't need a man to make your life complete, but I would suggest a good friendship circle.

The hardest part is making the transition, once everything settles down into a routine then life really can begin afresh.

We separated in 1998 after 20 years. Although I'm sad the marriage didn't work out I like being single. I was far more lonely and financially insecure when I was married. After we separated my ex couldn't /wouldn't have the children overnight and I had no family to help with the children but lack of babysitters and time wasn't a huge issue, we just did inexpensive family friendly things such as have friends for a meal or to stay, held BBQs or music jam sessions, group cycle rides or walking weekends etc etc. The mortgage was paid off within 4 years of separation. As I work in a field still dominated by men 97:3 I don't miss them.

That's not to say I wouldn't have a relationship if I meet the right person but there is a lot to be said for having a large circle of friends and being able to do your own thing without the complications and emotions of a relationship. I would now find it very difficult to change my ways and make the necessary compromises to make a relationship work. If I did meet the right person I think next time I would prefer to be together but live apart.