with no-one in my life, apparently it's not much of a life

[teahouse]

Great, just been told by a friend that with no-one in my life (partner), apparently it's not much of a life.

I've been an LP for a decade and my Ex cheated for nearly all of our marriage - nice to be informed how useless my life has been and still is - pass me the noose!

Oh loads of stupid people believe this. But the reason it's pushed so hard is that the patriarchal culture has this bedrock belief that women exist for men's benefit, and that every man is entitled to own a female domestic appliance and fucktoy - yet the way to make this happen is to sell slave status to women as something they must aspire to, and for men to pretend that they don't want 'domesticity'.

And before you all start yet again bleating that your relationships are not like that, of course not all relationships are like that. A good couple-relationship is a nice thing to engage in if that's what you want. But this longstanding, underlying myth that single women are freaks and failures comes entirely from the fact that men as a class want women to service them and worry that women (understandably) won't do so unless pressured into it in some way - either by being labelled property, forbidden to live independently (eg women being under the control of father/brother/uncle until they are given in marriage) - or by being socially stigmatized if they remain single.

Really I am more and more convinced that a lot of women put up with a lot shit from men because they are terrified of the alternative. I don't know why otherwise intelligent women buy into this crap but I can see why men might regurgitate the concept. After all if you are a useless little twunt, it is bound to boost your ego that some woman, any woman would rather be with you than on her own.

OP - please dump this plank. You are not useless, he is rude, insenstive and conceited.

BTW DD 6 just announced in the local cake shop that I should get married so I could get one of their wedding cakes , when I mentioned that I didn't fancy the idea she said I could marry her which was sort of sweet

And since when has "not-having-a-boyfriend" become "having no-one" as if you are totally alone in the world and bereft of social contact?

I am actually becoming more sympathetic to him. I think the original post was a bit disingenous - he didn't say to op that she
had a useless lonely life, he was commenting that his ex seemed to not have much of a life because she didn't have a partner.

that might well be true, not just because the ex doesn't have a boyfriend, but because she doesn't have many or any close relationships with other human beings.

I stress that I do not buy into this 'if you don't have a sexual partner you are a sad and lonely freak'... BUT nor do I buy into this denigration of coupledom as simply some misogynistic plot to keep women in their place, serving men.

Yes, I know some very unhappy couples where it looks like both of them are sticking together out of apathy or fear of loneliness. And that is crap.

But those couples I do know who seem happy, seem very happy. While I am lucky to have a loving child, friends and a close relationship with my immediate family, I do feel that I am missing out on not having a partner.

I don't miss out on having a partner - oh the relief of it all - the more I think about it, the more I think I'm gonna burst into song!!

No more religious outbursts, no more game playing, no more control c*t, no more moods and silent treatment, no more sexist bullsht,

Oh isn't it great to be alive