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How do you get to meet other single mums?

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fizzyhead · 08/01/2011 20:18

Hi Everyone,

My husband leaving soon and the thought of being bored/lonely really scares me. Most of my friends happily married. I need to meet other mums like me, who are up to having a good laugh, meeting for a glass of wine, dinner, chat, heart to hearts, etc.

other mums who will not stay at home feeling sorry for themselves, who will put up a brave front and who will show their ex's that their lives are going somewhere.

Anyone knows whether there is a website which puts single mummies in contact?

I'd really appreciate your advice?

thank you so much!!!:)

OP posts:

stardust86 · 21/02/2011 19:48

I have no help and I rarely go out without my LO, that's why I've joined sites that arrange events for families! Most of us are in the same boat and I actually prefer going out with my little one anyway, I'm not into leaving him while I have fun.

Having no help doesn't mean you can't have a social life, it's as much fun with kids.

mmsmum · 21/02/2011 20:06

I think that's great, but my post was about the op's question and that wasn't about socialising with the children.

On a separate note, I tend not to get along with other single Mums. They moan about how hard their life's are because their ex-h's only do so much. What am I supposed to say to that? I haven't seen or heard from mine in what, 7 years? I haven't got much in common with them :(

stardust86 · 21/02/2011 20:25

What's wrong with other single parents? I've met a number on the trips I went on last year and never once heard the moaning, we just had a fabulous time with some great people. Most were juggling full time demanding jobs whilst bringing up children without any help. None were moaning that they couldn't have social lives, but instead getting on with it, having fun with their kids.

It's sad to see prejudice about single parents on a single parent forum, especially when it's misplaced.

AllDirections · 21/02/2011 20:30

mmsmum, I'm the same as you as I have my youngest DD all the time so I want to (have to)do things with the kids. I can get a babysitter occasionally but there's a lot of stuff that I can't do that my single parent friends can because their children stay with the other parent.

I'm going to try one of the meet ups on www.singlewith kids.co.uk Hopefully I'll meet some other single parents and if that works out I might try one of their holidays.

Has anyone else tried their holidays?

mmsmum · 21/02/2011 20:30

Did you read my post? One I never said there was anything wrong with single parents, I am one for goodness sake! Two, I never mentioned anything about anyone moaning they couldn't have social life's. I have no prejudice! The Mums I know, and there aren't many, stand at the school gates and slag off their ex-husbands, that's what they do day in, day out. Blinkin heck, I'm a single Mum, as single as they come and cannot possibly have prejudice against myself can I?!

mmsmum · 21/02/2011 20:34

Sorry alldirections, cross post. I never knew there were sites or organisations like that until I read it on mn. I think it would be fun and great for dd to go on holiday with other kids, not sure if it might be too much though as we are so used to being together all the time. I wish I knew about these things when dd was little

stardust86 · 21/02/2011 20:58

mmsmum you said "I tend not to get along with other single Mums. They moan about how hard their life's are because their ex-h's only do so much" If that's not prejudice, it's a very sweeping generalisation. At the same time YOU'RE moaning about not having a social life and while we've made suggestions you've swept them aside.

I've met lots of single mums and you really can't generalise, they're as varied, as interesting and as resourceful as any other mum if not moreso. They really wouldn't fit the picture of embittered women spending all their time moaning about ex husbands.

stardust86 · 21/02/2011 21:02

AllDirections I'll try and send you a message, it would be nice to try and book something together. There are a couple of other mumsnetters you'd meet too, a few of us get around quite a lot.

mmsmum · 22/02/2011 13:03

It's a sweeping generalisation, I'd have thought that was obvious and really can't see how you decide to accuse someone of prejudice from that. Like everyone else I can only go by my experience and that's my experience. Also, I didn't moan about anything, I wasn't even talking about me and I certainly didn't ask you for suggestions and didn't even notice you made any. This is not my thread. I posted a response to the op and you struck up a conversation with me, not the other way round. I think you are very strange and now I'm going to do what you accused me of anyway and sweep you aside.

stardust86 · 22/02/2011 17:43

Just put me in the same class as other single Mums you don't get along with mmsmum

I did actually suggest you try and have a social life with instead of without your child rather than sitting home alone, but never mind, I'm sure you'll find your own way.

AllDirections, I think I've found you and messaged you on another forum, let me know if you received the mail.

lottysmum · 22/02/2011 19:24

I think SWK is a great site for meeting other single parents and great support - C & R saw a gap in the market because sites like Mango & Small Families in terms of holidays are out of the reach of most single parents. SWK is a Commercial Organisation that needs to make a profit and pay salaries and therefore mark up the prices that single parents pay for their services (their camping hols are great and affordable) ....and some services like the WHITELABEL dating that they offer is cheaper than most other sites ... but it is Whitelabel so a mass dating database much the same has POF but you dont pay for POF.

I;ve met some fab friends through SWK and have just started a Not for Profit Holiday Site too..... because I like to travel and have an only child but dont like paying inflated prices... the Single Parent Travel Club is also a great way of meeting like minded single parents .... We have a choice now... to hopefully suit all budgets and we are also all individuals too.

Look at Gingerbread they have a forum now linked to areas - One Space are also a fantastic site for support for SP's

happybubblebrain · 22/02/2011 20:41

Stardust - if something is arranged for a Midlands meet up can you let me know too. Thanks.

girliefriend · 22/02/2011 21:14

Im feeling left out!!!

I'm in the south west and don't know any other single parents infact I don't there are any round here its just me

I am however a SWK fan though and am going on one of their hols this easter

ledkr · 22/02/2011 21:31

girliefriend,where are you? My lovley friend is newly single mum of 18 month old sone,wants to meet others in same boat,she is 23.She comes on here but hasnt been for a while.we are in glos.

girliefriend · 23/02/2011 12:23

Im in Somerset, if there is any others of you out there then let me know!!!

stardust86 · 23/02/2011 14:10

@ Happybubblebrain,
the pub meet was at the weekend but there's something happening tomorrow (a group are going to Think Tank at Birmingham). I can't make it but there are some lovely mums going. "Think Tank" Single Parents Trip
Let me know if you go, hopefully we can meet at the next event?

happybubblebrain · 23/02/2011 18:46

Thanks Stardust
That looks good. I will keep my eyes open for any future ones, as we can only usually do things at weekends.

theredhen · 24/02/2011 22:33

Not all single parents are the same, like not all married parents or step parents are the same.

I do think you can use it though as a starting point to have something in common with someone.

I've been to single parent groups and not really found anyone who I particularly "gelled" with. However, one of my best friends is a single parent, we met through toddler group when we were both married / long term relationships.

pickitupyourself · 03/04/2011 13:07

Hi, I am new to site, but i wonder if any body is intrested in Dublin (southside) connections?

Clareystar · 08/06/2011 21:14

I am near Kingston. Have you met?

HappyJo82 · 20/07/2011 20:58

Hi I am a 29 year old single mum of two (Daughter 4, Son 10 months). I would like to meet other single mums in my area. I live in Balham.

kayah · 22/07/2011 22:42

lowercase - I sent you PM

joanne20111 · 26/02/2012 19:38

hi, i came across your messages and i thought i would say hi. I am a sinle mum of one boy who is 5, we live in st albans and dont know many people. I t would be nice to talk and maybe meet for a play date. hope to hear from you.
take care jo x

joanne20111 · 26/02/2012 19:42

joysofmotherhood · 26/02/2012 22:00

Any single mums in s.tipperary?, near Clonmel area?. Have recently moved into town and would love to meet up for some girlie chats and maybe an occassional night out! (if I can remember what that is!). Am very jealous of you London mums sounds like you are getting a great support network, its very important we support each other.
Hope to hear from some Ireland Mums.

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