Do your children know if absent father does not pay maintenance

[evolucy7]

I am interested on views on whether if you are in this position, do your children know that their father does not pay any maintenance to you. I don't really mean when he may be absent completely, but when he is still involved but makes no contibution or just the £5 per week payment throught the CSA.
Thanks

And then I moan like crazy to anyone who will listen when the DCs are not around!

Thanks Elastamum :)

Hi

I'm a single Mum, working full time, and like many of you I have just heard about the Gvnt plans to tax child support payments! I have set up a petition in protest.

Currently one parent will pay for example, £200 to CSA and the other parent will get £200 for child.

The proposal is one parent will pay £240 to CSA and the other parent will get £176 for child!

Both parents are charged! the first (up to 40%, the second up to 12%)

For most people if you do not use the new system and accept the charge you will not get any money.

You should also know you will have to pay £100 to apply to use the new system, then they take the monthly charge, then, if you need to enforce a payment they will charge you again!

You can read the Gvnts consultation paper and respond directly at
www.dwp.gov.uk/consultations/2011/strengthe ning-families.shtml

You can say NO to a tax on child maintenance by signing an online petition at

www.ipetitions.com/petition/taxingkids/
Please sign the petition and encourage others to sign too!

I am afraid that in a fit of frustration and rage, when I was being pestered incessantly by DS (7) for something completely out of my price range, that I did blurt out "if you want it so bad ask your father, I can't afford it."

I get so angry that he pays nothing what so ever, not for the last 5 years, hasn't seen DS in that time either (he lives abroad), he makes no effort to even send a postcard/birthday card, let alone presents. He expects me to call him, and moans when I don't, but declares how much he loves his boy.

I have to do everything alone.

I'm sorry, I'm not perfect. Being told I was being horrible and that all his friends has this that or the other (most do, BTW), and that he wished I wasn't his mum because I'm poor just tipped me over the edge.

I have never mentioned child support to my children, although my ex told them that he "would be able to take them to Disneyworld if he didn't have to pay mummy all the time".

I get £60 a month normally, but the bugger hasn't bothered to pay anything since August. Maybe a trip to Disneyworld is on the cards after all!

Where has the rest of my post gone?

That should have finished with:-

I get £60 a month normally, although the bugger hasn't bothered to pay anything since August. Perhaps a trip to Disneyworld is on the cards after all!

Here's a thought.....
Someone said they use the daddy won't give us money so you can't have that toy, holiday whatever to explain why can't afford it.

Does that mean if you had lots of money the children would get everything they wanted?

Sometimes, you just have to say no. It's a good lesson learnt that we do not get everything we want, when we want it.
Otherwise these children will grow up to build massive debts when they still believe they can have anything and everything.

Here's a thought.....
Someone said they use the daddy won't give us money so you can't have that toy, holiday whatever to explain why can't afford it.

Does that mean if you had lots of money the children would get everything they wanted?

Sometimes, you just have to say no. It's a good lesson learnt that we do not get everything we want, when we want it.
Otherwise these children will grow up to build massive debts when they still believe they can have anything and everything.