Should you buy a VERY new partner a Xmas present?

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Title says it all.

Been with my new man just one month. I'll call him "new man" as there has never been mention of the terms bf/gf yet, though we've both agrees we are not looking to get with other people, so I suppose there is a hint of exclusivity there.

I'm clearly running out of time to buy anything, but I do want to get something. Question is, how much should this something be? And should I stick within the realms of aftershave, DVD etc? He's 27.

All advice welcome. I'm going late night shopping tonight!

The shirt as it is is fine. I just really don't think you should get it printed. would you wear it?? It's a bit too intimate a present for such a new relationship. Too jokey, and it could misfire massively.

I guess I thought I was being considerate of his interests. But ok I'll give it to him just as it is. And the aftershave. Oh and he's a brilliant guitarist so have bought a little guitar tree decoration. So I'm done I'd say.

make him a compliation CD, you can get kits to do the cover artwork too
personal, cheap, and he can't hate it

ooops too late, you're sorted!

new relationship...id get something sex related, you'll both get the benefit so not like you're splashing out on him alone!

Lingerie etc

I like the guitar tree decoration
Fingers crossed for putting it up next year!

I think the t shirt is a good gift if he has a good sense of humour, I would be very impressed if someone had put that much thought into a present for me.

Thanks bea and trapped :)

If he likes to play the guitar, go to Dawsons or another music store and get him something from there. Guitar strap? Slide? Harmonica? (Just bought my music-loving son those three things for Christmas!) Or a DVD of his favourite band?

I wouldn't buy him anything romantic at this point - you don't want to scare him off! And you could pass any of the above off as 'Oh I was just passing the shop...'

Thanks for the ideas atswim and blackcoffee! Great suggestions. I've already decided and bought however. I went for the new Hugo Boss aftershave, a personalised (yet inexpensive!) tshirt and a cute guitar tree decoration.

Ooo ladies, as you're all so helpful, what do I write in his xmas card?! Or should I not bother giving one at all? It would be hand delivered. Just breezily "Dear Mr New First1, Wishing you a very Merry Christmas & Happy New Year, love First1 x?"

Ah Thank God for MN!

I think wine, a scalf or hat or something casual is fine.

I think you're overthinking the card - I do that, too! Most blokes will just glance at it, to be honest. I'd put Happy Christmas! and then put my name and a kiss.

Your present sounds perfect .

Yes it does - really nice.

But - does he have a Christmas tree?

DH and I got together at the start of December 11 years ago. We bought each other small, fairly jokey gifts for that first Christmas. It would have seemed strange not to get anything, but equally something expensive or meaningful would seem weird.

I think you should get lots of photos of you and him and stick them together in a together album. Stick in lots of hearts, rainbows and bunnies and write "I love you throughout". JOKE!

atswim - I know I know I'm overanalysing everything right now! At that stage where I find myself re-reading all his texts thinking hmm is there an underlying implication here?! Ahhh why do I do it to myself!

Yup he has a tree!

happybubble! Ahh nooo lol. Key ish there - we have no photos together! Only been 5weeks! But ultimately loved your idea!

'I know where you live' in green crayon. Spell it wrong.

Wow, lucky your new man! I don't think even my established partners spent that much on me at Chistmas!

Cant wait to hear about what he gets for you!

Forgive confusion from above post, that was me logged into my old account!

I got my now DH a Swiss Army knife! He was thrilled. We hadn't been together long..maybe two months. He got me...wait for it..a vegetable steamer!

And were you thrilled Shanahans?!