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What do you miss men for....

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dillydally · 27/09/2005 12:03

What I don't miss them for

  • Not for putting up shelves - I can do that and other mini DIY jobs (flat pack furniture assembly excluded)
  • Not for living together - the mess is unbelieveable when you give one house room
  • Not for paying the bills

I miss them for helping me put on my jewellery (make the darn clasps bigger please) and occasionally at the end of a v bad day, providing a big bear hug and a chilled bottle of wine

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RainbowWalker · 27/09/2005 12:04

Being the small one in a cuddle...

Bugsy2 · 27/09/2005 12:30

Good question DD, often ask myself this.
Physical strength - lifting things etc
Different perspective
Showing interest in boy stuff (i.e. happy to talk about engines, car types, boat types,) rather than feigning interest like me.

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dillydally · 27/09/2005 12:47

thank god I have a girl, i have no interest in cars / boats either, but try to watch Scrapheap challenge for an education

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Nightynight · 27/09/2005 12:53

just thinking .... um ....
I know.

Standing up to the neighbours in one of those horrible disputes.

Scaring off other predatory men.

Caligula · 27/09/2005 13:15

Dillydally come round my house! I can't put up shelves.

Mind you, neither could ex, so we never got any shelves. At least now he's gone, other men don't assume he's going to do it, so they sometimes offer!

misdee · 27/09/2005 13:39

not a lone parent, but i miss

cuddles on the sofa.
being able to talk all night.
knowing when i need a hug and when i need to talk.
just being there.

teeavee · 27/09/2005 13:41

misdee, I think of you often

loulounz · 27/09/2005 16:46

After 13 years with a w@nker - can't remember what a good one does!

Mum2girls · 27/09/2005 17:00

Not a lone parent but when dp is away,

for catching spiders
for picking up the dog turds in the garden

foxinsocks · 27/09/2005 17:09

dh is often away for work. I miss him for

-taking out the rubbish
-clearing out the nasty food bits that accumulate at the bottom of the kitchen sink
-having someone else around who can drive and share long journeys

and I don't miss him for
-black marks around the bath when he reads the newspaper
-clothes all over the bathroom
-snoring at night!

gingerbear · 27/09/2005 17:14

opening jars and bottles. I used to be able to do it, but now I think I am losing my grip.

livvysmum · 27/09/2005 19:47

miss that hollow between thier shoulder and chest where i could lay my head and snuggle.

manly smells- nice ones!- clean shaven smells.

having some one fancy me.

having dinner cooked for me.

being made to feel special.

loved rainbowwalkers one miss that too.

nightowl · 28/09/2005 00:21

changing the lightbulb at the top of the stairs because i cant reach it even with a ladder. thats it really.

HappyMumof2 · 28/09/2005 14:32

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Amanda1 · 28/09/2005 14:35

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livvysmum · 29/09/2005 12:37

sex

HappyMumof2 · 29/09/2005 14:02

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fairyfly · 29/09/2005 14:04

Emptying the bin.

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dillydally · 29/09/2005 14:05

I have been celibate for 14 dog years so I can't have missed it that much

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tammybear · 02/10/2005 22:30

lol thought id bump this up

the only thing i can think of that i miss a guy around for (although exp was no help with this, xdp was though) is for getting rid of spiders!

but i can do that if theyre on the floor, barely if theyre in the bath as somethings i cant get to the shower head, or when theyre on the top half of the walls, as i had a horrible experience last month when i hit a spider, although i put my chair far away from the wall, and it was a huge one which managed to land on my arm. well i then went screaming, running into my bedroom, absolutely petrified... so yeah thats about it although like i said, i can usually do it myself if i have to

livvysmum · 08/10/2005 11:07

by my calculation thats about 2 years dilly dally.
i've been with out for abut the same, ho hum, but have discovered ann summers online shop so am happy now.

weesaidie · 08/10/2005 11:16

intimacy

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dillydally · 10/10/2005 13:29

coming with me on hols to less western lady friendly countries is another one
i really want to go to Morocco btu had a bad time in turkey with grief and that was with a man, not sure I can face it alone.
Do you ever wear a fake wedding ring to stop getting grief?

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livvysmum · 11/10/2005 22:37

i wore a ring when pregnant, thought it would stop people judging me, gave up and just wore my bump with pride instead.

i worked in the middle east for 2 years and always wore a ring, it does keep most of them away, they seem to respect you more if they think you've a man to 'protect 'you, blah blah. any way it's advisable to wear one, you can flash it at them and it gets a message accross quicker than a few choice words. but remove immediatly on spotting yummy expats.

steph1974 · 13/10/2005 13:19

The only thing I miss is cuddling up to someone at night,mind you I do cuddle up to my son but the difference is if I had a man he "hopefully" wouldnt kick me in the face in the middle of the night.

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