Question for the fit and interesting ladies please.

[JaquiChan]

Been emailing/texting a guy for a while now. We met last week, he is lush . He emailed me when he got home to say he had a great time etc. Text the next day with the same sort of thing.

I am very new to dating but have lurked on your threads and various others. He has been texting today and has said that "he can't wait to see me again, that's for sure" but hasn't suggested any dates. His texts have had a smattering of sweetie/darling aswell. So my question to the wise and wonderful women of the dating world - is this man is nobber? .

TIA, will check back later.

Hi Jaqui, I'm a fit and interesting lady but have been on the thread for nearly 2 years and haven't managed to bag a man so I'm not the best to give advice.

Wonder why he hasn't suggested a date, next time he texts pin him down.

Why don't you repost on the thread they will give you some advice and welcome you.

Lol at nobber, arn't they all, just different degrees of nobbers.

How have you been responding? He might be wary of being knocked back so leaving it to you?

maybe because he has said he wants to see you again, he is waiting for you to give him some idea of when?

I've text back that I would like to see him again, guess I should wait and see. I am totally clueless about this dating lark .

good luck

lou, meant that I text him back this afternoon that it would be good to see him again, still no suggestion of a datel. Jeez, I'm crap at this ,

maybe he is as nervous as you?

keep us updated anyway :)

OK, so date went well. You've indicated you are interested. Now its his move.

Now if he's keen he will arrange another date fairly sharpish. Unless he's busy in which case chances are he'd have mentioned it on the actual date.

What would be suspicious is saying "he can't wait to see me again, that's for sure" then not arranging something soonish.

I'd suggest letting him do some of the running. People don't value things they can get too cheaply.

Thanks for the replies. Am still waiting .

i would simply text "when shall we meet up next then?"

perhaps thats just me but i could be doing with waiting to be asked out on a date! he said he would like to see you again so as him when! Good Luck!

*couldnt not could

*ask not as (i shouldnt try to type so fast )

Nooooooooooooooooo don't ask him out! Play it cool, respond to messages but don't initiate anything.

If he wants to see you, he'll ask to see you. If he doesn't ask, it's because he's not that bothered.

Re-read some of his texts and one on Friday said see you next week, missed my chance to close him down there didn't I? maybe he is waiting for me to make a suggestion, maybe I am just driving myself slightly potty .

Oh kill me now - he text asking how my day was going, said he was thinking of me . So what do I do, text back saying great to hear from him again, but leave it with no questions to reply back to. Jeez, I deserve to be single!!

Text him back tell him about your day then ask when he is free for the next drink

always good to ask a question in text convo I find - it then guides them to answer back?

I sort of agree about letting them chase a bit but getting things to cheaply - er what century are we in?

Are we meant to sit around coyly fluttering our fans?

Should a woman's worth be determined by how she waits around for a man?

oh I am just so confused. He has been texting a few times now, last text ended with hope we meet again very soon, what shall I do?????? Was thinking perhaps, would be lovely to meet again, when are you free?

ok, I replied - well if you hope we meet again soon let me know when you are free and we can take it from there .

not sure if this is game playing, him keeping me dangling, but will bear in mind for the future to close down on a date rather than we will meet sometime type stuff.

oooh, he's come straight back with how about Thursday? yayyyyyyyy .

Why are you s oreluctant to name a time and place? I've just organised a second date after a fabulous one last week, and so far no game playing bollocks on either side. I like him, he likes me so why wait around for a set amount of time before the next one?

x post, sorry. Bu tnext time, you do the organising, why agonise over it?

I know BooBoo, I am just so new to this after 20+ years. I am going to take that approach from now on,nothing gained and all.

How did you meet your guy?

On plenty of fish
my friend helped me sign up 2 weeks ago, I sent messages to a few guys I liked the look of from their profiles (again, why wait for the men to message you? Balls to that) and we got talkign on there. After a week of lots of messages, we started teting, and organised a date. I was quite close to crapping my pants walking there but it went so well. I was the biggest sceptic in the world as far as internet dating goes. But I may just have found myself a gem. And if not, it's got me back in the dating game, gettign me out of the house, and doing wonders for my confidence. Fwiw, I am still messaging a few others, none I like as much tbh, but for the time being, I am not puttign all my eggs in the one basket