Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

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Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

Tra la la la la....

Yay for date eve :)

So, do you want the bad news or the bad news?

Soldier left here Monday evening, ignored my text at bedtime and ignored my text Tuesday afternoon. Saw he had been on Lovestruck on Tuesday and Wednesday (I've been hidden since last week). Wednesday evening I logged in and he was online, so I sent him a message and he has ignored that too! Guess that's the end of that one...

Also got a text from exH this morning, his uncle (who didn't give a sh*t about him, or his mum) has died in Ireland and he wants to go to the funeral. My three days of childlessness has turned into about 45 minutes! Soldier was supposed to be coming over tonight, but I'd already worked out that wasn't going to happen anyway. I was supposed to be meeting a lovely bunch of fit and interesting ladies in a pub tomorrow, and now I can't do that , and I was supposed to be at a union event all day Saturday, and now I can't do that either.

So anyway, still have cyclist in reserve, you never know, I might actually meet him next week and wonder why we waited so long!

My lone parent friend up north has just been dumped by her boyfriend of over a year, cos she has three kids and wants to be part of a family unit again and he doesn't but we have arranged that she will come and stay for a few days at new year while we are both childless and at least I have that to look forward to.

Hope the rest of you had a better day!

sponge, enjoy your shopping!

eve - great news about your date. Hope you have a fab time.

:( lilac. What a bloody coward - soldier, I mean. Ignoring someone like that is a really shitty thing to do and IMO says a lot of (not very good) things about a persons character.

I have a date arranged for next Friday (yay) and my XP is being a twat again. Actually, I'm glad he does this every once in a while as it reminds me not to get too complacent! I know exactly why he's done it too. Still, yar boo sucks to the tosser.

lilac - what would the reaction be if you said no, sorry I'm busy this weekend?

Lilac, sorry to hear all this. Soldier isn't worth another thought. Shame you cannot make the meet up, I'm sure they would cheer you up.

Sponge, I have a talent for dragging friends astray when they want a quiet/early night, sending good vibes your way for a cracking night.

Date is sorted out for Saturday, last train back is 10.30!!

So what's the final lineup for tomorrow night and will you promise to take some pics and post on facebook for me.

I'm going to a cheese/wine/fashions show for a girly night tomorrow.

lilac - I know that feeling when your planned child free time just goes like a drawbridge closing up on a castle!!

My exh is going away on a business trip on sat for about eight days which screws up the next weekend (20th) and also again in early December.

He also said last night that there is a further complication before Xmas - we haven't actually discussed what that is yet but basically I work from the default that dcs aren't really going anywhere.

I not only use my time away from them to recharge/socialiise but also do mundane things like cleaning and shopping etc.

Tomorrow I will be there just after five and will prob have to leave about seven.

I have organised a girls night in for friday after next as I do need that downtime.

Sponge - if its any consolation work has gone very bad atm - I have to do a very detailed report by 26th, our finance dept called this morning and they want to do an audit asap, I realised I have forgotten about an event which is going ahead next wed and we also have a very high profiel event involving a government minister on the 25th.

I left work early today to collect ds1 (14) who had a detention and was a bit worried about walking home aloen in the dark - so I left two hours early waited at the school only to discover he had skipped the detention and had gone home. I also thought by giving him the extra one on one attention it would help with his hormonal outbursts and constant harassing of ds2 and bad attitude towards me.

I actually think I am getting or near to burnout but I do need to work to support the dcs.

aaaaargh

And Flame, whats going on? You can talk about him, we have given our impressions but feel free to completely disregard us and gush all you like . Nowt wrong with falling for a wrong un, I've done it myself on this thread. He took the , was a serious toyboy and a very bad one to boot.

I also have long history of falling for wrong 'uns and also accepting something which won't probably ever turn out right. !!!

Oh lilac that sucks.

I've been to a pole dancing class tonight!! Absolutely loved it!! My knees are already covered in masses of purple bruises. I am not gonna be pretty naked fir some time.

And thank you.

I didn't text him on Weds apart from basic reply to his asking if he was still coming round. spent the day with a mate (who told me to ignore you lot ). He came round, asked a few questions about date, I asked about the girl he'd been talking to and he said he hadn't bothered continuing since the weekend (i am hoping he didn't just vanish mid chat). As he was about to leave he told me he was off all sites and didn't want anyone else. He then tried to call us friends and I started laughing and told him that I was as convinced of that as him, at which point he got flustered and told me we'd talk with no wine and me not laughing at him.

Sooo onto today. Normal texts and then one at lunchtime inviting me to bristol with him on Saturday. His trips to bristol are very personal to him plus one of our not relationship rules was that we didn't do daytimes... it looks like we're doing this properly for a while.

Flame, Bristol sounds good, go with him if you have nothing better to do .

SCL my track record is embarrasing really but the great thing about falling for someone is that it's such an revelation to me and tells me that I am still alive, and my heart isn't made of stone. Let's hope if it happens again it's for someone worthwhile or normal even.

eve & scl - I think we have all been there - worn the t-shirt, washed it, worn it again as I like to say :)

Nice to hear you sounding cheery Flame :) hope it all works out for you.

my knees are purple!!! Its a good thing i don't have to wear a skirt any time soon!!

looking forward to this eve, may get there a bit earlier than planned....which would be great if some folks are heading off 7-8ish

Had an interesting run in with XH this morning.....
He had let me know yesterday that he would like to stay later today (is his birthday on Sun) and had agreed he would drop them at their sleepover, enabling me to get myself off into town. He normally gets here for 10am on a Friday. This morning he was here at 7.50, no warning.....and RAF was here, just leaving to go to work.
So XH drove off again and then sent me a stroppy text about how 'unhappy' he was and that he was 'thinking about his next move'

He then texted to say he would collect DD2 at 10. He arrived, and stood leaning against his van.....I went out with DD2 and suggested he come in to get his post, birthday present etc. He had obv been crying. I guess the reality that RAF is in mine and the DDs' life and he isn't any more. I just very quietly said, 'look, you live with your DP, mine stays over regularly, this is how we are moving on'

long story short, he is taking the DDs out for birthday tea and dropping them off at sleepover, doesn't want to be in the house, which is fine by me. I guess this was inevitable and I flagged to him loud and clear last Fri that I want the visits to my home to stop, time to move on, get his stuff out etc etc. Shame it happened by surprise, but kind of relieved to have got over it

Looking forward massively to this eve as some light relief

Flame, purple knees

Janos yay re date re X

lilac re tonight and your X being an arse

Eve, ooh, looking forward to hearing how the date goes

I think the final lineup tonight is:

Monty
SCL
PMG?
Sponge
Kdk
Me

Have fun ladies!

yay, stuff is being loaded into XH van.....

hey Lou, shame not to be seeing you

have fun ladies and please get monty a large one in
mily not your prob anymore you've been more than accomodating,don't let the tears get to you,it's all about control
but be warned...he'll prob turn on the tears with dds
{sick of poor little me exh's emoticon}

what have you got planned tonight?

Hi all

am really looking forward to seeing those of you who are coming tonight (and will miss those partypoopers who live too far away who aren't!)

My mum has agreed to pick the kids up from school so I can get ready early and should be there by 5.30ish.

Must not drink too much (repeat until fall over)

hey asbm, you are so right

Has just told me he won't be doing Fridays any more (good job I have alternative childcare set up as nanny can't do it ) which is a relief. And can he have DDs for the weekend at the end of the month? Then a load of spiel about how his DP has not had children and how worried she is about having them to stay....

oh god have I forced this too much and is it going to backfire on the DDs???

on the plus side I have had a call cancelled 4-5 so can get earlier train in for the merriment this eve

kdk - I'll remind you not to drink to much, can you remind me to eat please? Have not had lunch yet and after the run-ins with XH I may fall over at the 1st G&T

Have fun tonight!

Just bought myself a new jacket for date tomorrow.

Anyone know what happened to Beautnotmag? She hasn't posted for ages, not that it's compulsory, she's probably too loved up.

mily - I'm going to have to eat as well - they do food which is one reason I chose it. Can't (shouldn't) do drinking without eating anymore ...

i am planning on having a night in doing nothing at all

have a large one for me

Hi ladies, I might be a little later than planned, stuff going on.

Rofl at ASBM

I'm going to try and remain a little sensible.

Will have one for absent friends obv