sooooo the first completely eligble man I have met in RL (as opposed to internet) has just spent half an hour in my house. I volunteer for a local group, and have just taken on a more senior role. He's the level above so came round just to talk through what needs doing. I haven't met him before.
he is in the right age bracket, he is single but not too recently single, intelligent, solvent, well mannered, like minded. he lives locally, I found him physically attractive.
I have no idea what he thought about me beyond the fact that I am a helpful useful person who has taken on more work.
Now obviously I know I should just ask him out for a drink - but if I do and he says no it is going to be pant-wettingly awkward as we will work together in the future, he may tell other people so all the people I volunteer with will know. argh.
I won't get an opportunity to see him again in person for a few months, so it's not like I can build up more of a rapport.
If I just call or text re a drink after 30 mins of casual chat will I look needy, desperate, stalkerish? Should I just wait until we've met a couple more times (but that is weeks and weeks so chances are he will get to meet someone else in the meantime!).
Will stop wittering now. Please help!