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readywithwellies · 13/09/2010 11:45

Hi everyone
I have name changed altho am a regular, I have been separated for 2 years, have two DCs aged 3 and 6. Have recently moved in with new DP, about 15 miles from EXH.
Currently my EXh has the DCs overnight on Thursdays, picks up from school on Fridays and has them until 6pm (no later, that may spoil his social life). Then on Sunday am till Monday at 7pm.
This arrangement had been working OK up until DC 6 has started his new school. ExH and I agreed access as above but it is not (IMO) in the DCs best interests as there is much toing and froing. I would prefer he had them every other weekend Fri-Sun with the following week being Sun 10-7. This means I would arrange the school and meals (he feeds him the same tinned food every meal) We both work FT. I would then let him have them more in the holidays as well to make up the lost overnights. I know ExH is not going to agree, he wants to see them every few days and a week is too long to go.
I would really appreciate everyone's views, I have an appointment with the solicitor on Friday to sort it out.

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Zappy123 · 01/10/2010 14:34

To be honest I think leaving well alone would be the best policy. Your ex seeing her dtr regularly is the main thing and its great its working out. Your dtr is 3 and frequent short contacts are probably for the best. When she older, quite a bit older, then alternate weekends might make sense but to force this on her now seems wrong.

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