omg maintenance stopped - what can I do?

[daffy3]

my ex has just stopped paying his monthly maintenance and I dont know how I will manage. one of our kids has recently gone to live with him and so he says that we are now "equal" when it comes to maintenance. that I should be paying him towards upkeep of the one with him and that he should be paying me for the other one with me and that therefore there's nothing to pay. What to do? this has affected my child benefit too as he now gets some for the child now living iwht him,....
luckily mortgage is v low (ex gave me his capital when we split) but I have to give that back whenc hilddren leave school. I dont know how I can do that when it is going to be just 2 or 3 years away now. Does anyone have any ideas?

"I had a conversation with DSD about CTF/CB and told her that it was sent straight to DD's account ready for her uni etc. DSD commented on how she wouldn't have that much (she knows I put £50 a month into NS&I for her) and I said hopefully her mum was doing something similar."

Can you explain that to me too? CB sent straight to DD's account? how? wish I could do that at some point...

You can have your chidl benifit paid into which ever bank account you want, you give them the details etc and that is what they shoudl do.

SO you have a similar income to your ex (leave his wife out of it as its not a factor in maintainance) and you have a tiny mortgage as he agreed to not take his split until his children left school and now have one child each living with you yet you think he's wrong in not giving you £300 a month - despite the fact you dont seem to think of paying him for the other child. What planet are you on?

You've had nine years to prepare for the equity release, if you've left it until now then you only have yourself to blame.