I've realised that I have no one, not a single friend and I don't know what to do

[GonnaGoCrazy]

Very recently split with DP, I hadn't realised that I actually lost my friends too because I didn't see any of them when we were together. They didn't really get on with DP and just sort of drifted away.

My children have gone away with their father for 2 weeks and for the last couple of days I haven't spoken to another person at all. I don't think saying thank you when I get my change from the shop counts

I text my old friends a few times and haven't heard back at all. I am not close to my family, I see them Christmas and family get togethers but not really at any other time.

I am so lonely. I have only been out the house a cople of times for a newspaper and some bread. I don't have a clue what to do with myself for the next 2 weeks.

there was a really good thread on this a month or so back by Toffee (posted on here earlier) which really gave me food for thought. I think there's also a MN lone parents group on Facebook although I'm useless eith FB so haven't really investigated it yet.

It is difficult though and there are times when I am surrounded by people but feel incredibly lonely because I can't really open up to them about how I am feeling for fear of being boring or whatever.

Gonnagocrazy, hopefully with the new term there are new groups around you starting up that you could get involved with. What about voluntary work as well?

There are lots of us on here that feel exactly the same so you are not completely on your own.

without I think thats a good idea...

Hello everyone.

I feel for you, GGC. You must be feeling really lost right now, but I do think you should persevere with your friends. Give them time, and if nothing comes of it, then that's excellent advice about joining groups etc. Facebook and Myspace is great for finding local new friends - Hell, I do that all the time!

Now a ticking off - I have had friends who have gone off and gotten married or started a new relationship before and then they totally cut their mates off. Yes, they are all loved up and that is fab, but please, don't fuck your mates off.... You CAN incorporate everything in life! Isn't that what it's all about? I would never, ever 'leave' my mates. They are like my family.

You know, I have been a single parent for 4 years now and have always maintained very close contact with friends, worklife, social life, education and people in general. It can be done, Darl! There are so many wonderful, creative, fun people out there, all waiting to befriend. Don't give up!

I'm in the same boat!

Xh and I moved areas just before we had dc, to his home town, leaving all my friends behind. I only worked briefly before having dc so didn't really make any lasting friendships there.

Since xh and I split up, I realised I had very few friends, and shortly after that I started Uni. All my local 'mum' friends have since all but turned on me (it's a very small town mentality and I think I'm seen as trying to better myself iyswim) so as both my dc are now at full time school I have not one person to see during the day :(

I did make friends at uni (it's a closed course though so no chances to join anything or make friends across courses) but I'm the only younger one with kids, and they all go out drinking and abroad together... so I don't fit in there either. They all also live nearer my uni and I don't drive.

It truly, truly sucks.

AisieSusie's post 'Its strange, I value friends so so highly, but I have really screwed things up, and I am really bad at making friends, I look really confident and confiding, except its all an act and no one ever seems to want to know the real me.'

Is me to a t.

Without, are you on the South Coast at all? Anywhere nr Portsmouth?