I´ve sent the following message to the mumsnet Editors regarding this thread. Those who were following the thread this week will be interested.
Dear Editors,
I am a mum and I have recently joined mumsnet in order to be able to discuss a local school with other local mums. My username is ZoeTedders. I wasn´t clear which thread was currently as there were several recent threads with the school´s name (Turing House) in it so I copied it into those.
In one of the threads I was redirected to the most active thread by an individual who I assumed was another local mum. I´m not sure that redirecting people to particular threads is allowed. Surely, mums can post anywhere they like.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/secondary/1999676-Turing-House-school-site?pg=6
Anyhow, it turns out that this individual BayJay is not just a local mum but actually a member of the Steering Group of the Turing House School that I wished to discuss. Therefore, ´steering´ me towards a thread that she herself had started and had many of the school´s supporters on it. She openly admits that she represents the school directly if you read the thread that I was directed to by her.
local.mumsnet.com/Talk/local_richmond_upon_thames/2229111-Richmond-Borough-Schools-Chat-6?pg=32
My main question that I wanted to discuss with other mums was whether the school had recruited unqualified teaching staff which I think is an important issue to consider when choosing a secondary school for your child. Obviously, this is not a question which supports the school and is controversial. I didn´t think that mumsnet was against talking about controversial issues that concerned parents though.
Each time I posted on BayJay2´s thread my comments were shot down in flames and I was insulted by being called ´naive´, ´petty´ and ´rude´. This is think was uncalled for as I hadn´t insulted any of the other mums in the same manner, in fact I had thanked mums for sharing their opinions.
BayJay as a member of the school´s steering group kept telling me not to post on mumsnet about the school but to direct my comments directly to the school in a private email, that she herself was checking to see if they had arrived and then posting on the thread about it!!! She says so in subsequent posts. Which concerns me, is she part of the Steering Group or actually the Head? . I sent an email to the school and it has not been responded to, no doubt BayJay has deleted it.
I believe in freedom of speech. I think this person BayJay should not be allowed to tell people to direct their questions elsewhere either on other threads or outside of mumsnet. I think that behaviour is controlling and manipulative and not in the spirit of public local forums. The title of the thread is ´Richmond Borough School´s Chat´ My comments are challenging some aspects of the school, her viewpoint is clearly the opposite so clearly there is conflict.
It was worse later when she says that I ´attack´ the school and questions my motives for posting. Horrendous comments to make. This is an awful thing to say about another mum on mumsnet.
She says: ´´Zoe, your email didn't arrive yesterday either, so please do send it again. If you do have another agenda or interest other than just as a Year 5 parent, it's worth declaring that upfront too´. and ´I do suspect he/she was launching an attack on the school aimed at unsettling local parents, rather than simply informing her own choices as claimed. (And, by the way, the email she said she would send to the school still hasn't arrived)´
I´m obviously upset and hurt by these comments and consider them to be publically accusing me of being a troll which I am not. I didn´t think that was allowed on mumsnet.
Happily, there were several comments placed by other mums which were in my defense and defended the freedom of speech on mumsnet forums.
I hope that this can be resolved so that other mums can post their concerns about Turing House School and discuss them freely with other parents rather than being controlled by official school representatives looking to avoid any bad press.