Anyparent, no, we can't see the intimidation... Why don't you point it out so that whoever is guilty of it can (and I'm sure will) apologise?
I put down three of my four closest schools - having visited each of them. I wasn't happy with the fourth, so I didn't put it down. We didn't get a place in any, being offered a place instead at one a mile in the opposite direction from the rest of our lives, and in a school I had also visited and which I didn't feel offered even adequate educational standards.
We had suspected this might happen, so we'd lined up private. Financially it's going to be a stretch for our family: I'm self employed and my DH works for a charity. But I appreciate we're fortunate to be in the position to be able to go down this route at all.
Other people aren't. And I'd prefer it if they didn't have to make the kind of decisions we were faced with.
Look. We wouldn't remotely be in the catchment for Dundonald - even with the expansion in place. But these things have a ripple effect, so directly or indirectly we are all affected by the lack of places in the centre of town. We might have stood a chance at Wimbledon Chase, for example, (just 400m from our house) if Dundonald's expansion relieved some of the pressure for places there.
Yes, Bishop Gilpin should probably expand too. But that's another battle for another day, and not the issue at hand.
I'm really glad you and your children are happy and thriving Anyparent. I've no doubt you are doing a great job and your absolute best for them. That's what we're all trying to do, or we probably wouldn't be on this forum.
Thing is, having visited the school we were offered, I'm as convinced as I can be that my children would not be 'having a ball' there. I'm not prepared to have them spend seven hours a day in an environment where I believe they won't thrive, and somewhere I don't feel she will be provided for educationally.
Yes, we could compensate with additional support at home etc. But then I question the value of those 35 hours a week sat ? no, not sat, actually, the school in question doesn't believe in desks and chairs ? lying, standing, roaming around a school which is doing nothing for her, in an environment of barely contained chaos.
I do, however, use Dundonald Rec and playground regularly, and walk through there daily. I love the Rec and wouldn't see it 'destroyed' for all the world. If that were remotely the plan I too would be up in arms. But it's patently not. We gain 210 places. We lose a tiny fraction of grass ? 0.6% of the space. I think that's a pretty good trade, and the closest we'll get to a win/win.
Anyparent, this is simply a healthy debate. An argument, yes. But there's no intimidation or threats here. Just robust opposition. Far better to defend your position and offer alternative solutions to the problem, don't you think? Otherwise it just looks like you're just unable to make your case.
Just saying...
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