** German Chat ** Alle sind willkommen. ** Frühling läßt sein blaues Band ...

[MmeLindt]

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Wieder flattern durch die Lüfte
Süße, wohlbekannte Düfte
Streifen ahnungsvoll das Land
Veilchen träumen schon,
Wollen balde kommen
Horch, von fern ein leiser Harfenton!
Frühling, ja du bist's!
Dich hab ich vernommen!

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Für Deutsche und nicht-Deutsche, Goethe-fans und Gottschalk-fans, für Herzschmerz, Heimweh und Heimatgefühle.

Alle sind willkommen.

what's dulce de Lette? Some kind of milky sweet dessert? Will pass that on to dh.

Yes, hupa I'm wildly a bit envious myself. It is very stressful to all this travelling with little time to recover from the jet-lag. He has been doing an awful lot of it the past year.

Haven't hear d back yet but I told her it would be a good time to call me after 12

Grrr, the neighbour just called and I took pity on her and invited her in for a cup of tea, now I'm back to square one so have done nothing yet. I'll start with a pile of documents and then go down and getthe suitcases when ds comes in at 12:30.

Luckily I don't have to do any washing/ironing for h and he will feed himself. There are a few curry dishes frozen and pizza but last time I went away he hadn't touched anything so it looks as if he had eaten out most of the time.

dulce de leche is like a thick, gloopy caramel. it's lush, it is...

Zzzen - definitely ask for dulce de leche - you´re right it is thick, sweet, caramalised milk. It´s so yummy. My friend used to make such fantastic deserts. Take a look here for ideas if you do get some. Not good if you´re on a diet I should add.

ok have passed on the order he is to keep a look-out for dulce de leche. Thanks!

So I have got a file with birth certificates, mine and the dc's and marriage certificate and all my diplomas (haha , not many but you never know) and my old UK documents P45 and such like and my German Steurkarte, Renten blabla and that's it really.

Now passports and bank info (online banking anyway). Should be enough to get any information about starting over bnack home?

kindergeld info I think you might need admylin

Could you pack up a box with important personal stuff you are not taking directly with you, seal it up and leave that with your neighbour if you are a bit worried about getting these things later on, or would you rather not do that?

admylin - are you definitely not coming back or seeing how it goes? Does dh or the dc know that you´re thinking about not coming back? Sorry if I´m asking too many questions.

I'm coming back but I want to try and get the ball rolling for Summer - I need to try and see if I could get a place for the dc at school and if I can get myself on some sort of course or even a job and I think I need those things to maybe register with these places. Kindergeld is also good to take. I can leave copies of all these things back home and then see how it goes.

I haven't figured out in my head how to put this to h yet but that's what i hope to be able to do in these coming 2 weeks. Possibility is I could leave ds there but I wouldn't last long with out him even i´f I did know he was being well looked after.

try not to get all stressed and worried about it atm admylin. You and your dc definitely need a real break.

Am dreading the phone call now. I so hate confrontation, I can be such a wimp at times.

That´s a good idea, trying to get everything sorted for the summer. Do you mean leave ds here if he doesn´t get a place in the chosen school straight away?

think she meant leave ds in England and go back to Germany to sort everything else out

Thanks - that makes much more sense.

It's all just an idea and they (back home) have offered. Recently h has actually admitted that science maybe isn't his dream job and honestly, everyone says he was a much nicer person when he didn't have his title and 'big' job.

Anyway I have to send off 2 applications this weekend for him for jobs in London so yet again, we've moved but he isn't happy.

went browsing shoe shops yesterday whilst the course was on or not, whatever was going on there. Anyway have you seen the new shoes!????!!!!!

Igitt honestly, they are so absurd somehow. Or do people seriously want to wear mustard yellow and dark violet shoes? In particular when the two colours are combined and worn with a very high clumpy looking sole. I was just thinking eh? What's this all about? I couldn't see anything I liked. Did watch one brave woman tripping about in some 7 inch wedgies with cork soles, bright purple on top and the wedge is cut out like someone has taken a bite out of it from the side.

She said she'd think about them. I seriously couldn't walk in those, not even from the pc to the fridge I don't think.

And then there were the strappy scarlet shiney ones with the HIGH HIGH golden heels and the whole look schreit : Hüre to me. I am not that staid really but who the heck is going to wear those and where fgs?

or should I give myself a Rück and get with the times? What do you think? We could make them part of our German chat uniform. We have to put them on before MNing. Not much else you can do in them IYAM. And what does the woman of today wear with those shoes? I think we should go for the purple and mustard 7inch wedgies personally

Stick to classic is my motto. I got some really classic little summer shoes in Texas, so classic they go with everything and I got a brown and a black pair. Now I just need some sandles maybe and of course the dc need everything for summer too so I'll be looking for them in UK.

Here's what h was muttering about last night: but if I get a job in UK and leave the Krankenkasse here, what happens if I want to come back to Germany? I said but it's no problem in UK, you have NHS anyway and if you get a job later - back in Germany you would be insured through work surely? He kept muttering and worrying so that's the sort of thing that stops him doing things - it's a PROBLEM, the same as his life insurance , what do I do about paying that, it costs too much to send the payments from abroad. Arghhh - why do you have a Bankberater? You go and speak to them and sort that kind of thing out, thousands of people manage to move abroad and come back again (using his excuse that we should settle here as millions of Germans manage it). He just won't sort these things out and then he'd rather not move as it's 'too complicated'.

there is something funny with the krankenversicherung but I can't say I ever understood it. I think the issue is that once you change to private health insurance, you cannot go back and also if you go overseas you cannot go back. I have heard some such thing before.

However it makes no sense to me because people are arriving from overseas all the time, aren't they and moving as you said via work into the öffentliche Krankenkasse. Not sure how it works but I don't think it can be an unsurmountable difficulty really.

Would he quite like to settle in Germany then do you think?

Not really, he's just sort of stuck here because of afore mentioned problems and the fear of change. Although I honestly thought we'd be stuck down in the south of Germany for ever so if he managed that he should manage to move abroad.

Ds should be back soon then I can start packing once I've got my cases.

admylin sounds like you've got a hard few days/weeks/months ahead of you but i'm sure you'll know in the end what the right thing to do is - if you're that unhappy here then it sounds like the right thing to back to the UK and if your marriage is strong then your h should understand that and be making plans to get a job in the UK. Surely he cant be happy if he knows that your this unhappy living here. And the kids would cope fine - i worried for weeks about my quiet dd changing schools and she's settled in so easily!
cant help you with what you need to take with you to the UK but looks like some others have got good advice for you!!
i've come onto to MN to calm down - my ds2 really knows how to wind me up - he's only 2.7 but a little monkey (i call him worse sometimes)! came home from KG -wouldnt eat his lunch but because i wouldnt let him sit on my knee and steal my lunch he poured his drink all over the table and his brother!!
It sounds petty to write it down but if he doesnt get all the attention he just causes trouble till he gets it! but i've got his number - i took him away from the table and left him lying crying on the floor - finished my lunch then i've put him in bed - i normally lie for a bit with him but not today!! his brother and sister are absolute angels - dont know where i got him from!!
Sorry for the big moan (again!!) he's just wound me up!!

Admylin
I don't see what the problem is with the health insurance. My DB spent a year of two in Germany, then had a couple of years in UK then came back for 6 months. He just signed back up with the Krankenkasse when he arrived here.

I think that you are doing the right thing, checking out moving back home. What happens if he gets the job in London? Would you move there, or move to the Lakes and he could pendel up and down at the weekends?

ZZzen
Have you heard from the language school yet?

Canella
Sounds like my DS. He is such a nightmare. This morning he emptied the liquid soap into the sink and played with the bubbles. That is the second time this month that he has done that. Last time it was shampoo.