How do you host visitors so that you aren't completely exhausted by the end of their stay?

[AlwaysPerplexed]

We live in SW France, so relatively easy to get to from the UK . We have just (nearly) finished renovating, so have a nice home, plenty of land with a pool - quite an attractive holiday destination now. We have a LOT of siblings and our children (we have 2 each) are starting to produce, so the attraction is only going to grow.

I have just said goodbye to one lot of visitors - 5 nights and 5 long days with them, 5 breakfasts, lunches and dinners - although we were taken to a local restaurant for one of them. We drive them to attractions, pick them up from the airport etc etc.

Now I have to say I do love to see our friends and families, we are both reasonably tolerant people, but I am just so exhausted that I think we have to do SOMETHING to our hosting system, but I don't know what - manage expectations, but how?

We are retired so living on pensions, which are fine, but don't lend themselves to much socialising outside . I do like to cook and try to prepare a lot in advance.

Any hints and tips that others have found useful?

Guests must have a car.
Do not disturb your daily routine. This is their holiday, not yours.
Meals are not special occasions.

You are at no one else’s beck and call. Always check your diary and say no (you don’t have to give a reason). Only suggest another date if you woukd like to.