I Hate London

[JamSandwiches45]

We've been here as a family for three years now. We moved from Auckland, New Zealand. I can't be the only expat that spends every day regretting the decision?!

Apart from the shopping and the proximity to Europe/US for holidays, I can't think of one thing that's better here than we had at home. The place is a filthy ghetto! The general attitude/reluctance for people to actually put in a hard days work is astounding. I won't even mention the schools, are DH is a supply teacher and the stories I hear are beyond me.. I fear for his safety daily.

I miss my house on the beach! Time to pack it in and go home I think.

"We would have been better left alone, actually. I don't benefit from having my ancestors murdered as trophies. I'm sure the Indigenous Native Australians, and the Native Americans would agree."

It's you who made the sweeping statements about everyone here benefiting from the colonial system. My point was that this accusatory 'you' that you keep using is spurious. Your DC are the Londoners of today. That's who you're being hateful at when you're having a go. But I can see that - as your title should have told me - you are determined to hate, so there's no more to be said really. Move on or let it fester.

Move on - meaning out of London that is, as you hate it so much. Can already see you taking that the wrong way.

If your husband can do Birmingham why not look at Malvern or Cotswolds? Can’t Guarantee open mindedness but it is pretty and safe!

Why wouldn’t you be asked for proof of citizenship though? It is probably your accent and your disdain that give you away.

OP you have been rude and quite aggressive in every one of your posts. It may be that this is just a consequence of feeling so out of place and lonely where you're living but you're clearly not happy! I think you should look to make a move somewhere else pretty soon. Getting childcare from PILs is great but it surely isn't worth feeling this miserable as a result.

I love London. Yet, did not enjoy my travels to NZ. It's horses for courses. Life it too short to 'hate' where you live. I hope you find your way back home soon, but in the meantime, maybe look for the positives of living in London. There are numerous ones.

Are you taking advantage of our free NHS system here OP?

@pinkdelight You've completely missed the point but, oh well.

Auckland and London are not the same! I’d seriously look at non London UK for a better balance of what you’re used to/want

@AgathaRaisonDetra My husband is British. My children have British citizenship. Not 'taking advantage' of anything, say, like you did Maori in NZ.

I loved most of NZ except Auckland, way too busy for me now. did live in London , good at the time, no longer for me.

Op, if you dont like your life either change it or stop whinging. nowhere will change for you. uk will be crowded, same land area as Nz but 70 million people not 5 million.

Ah, I posted this before I read your last two posts. Yes I see the issue now, everything is clear.

Well, good luck to you.

asked for proof of citizenship and asked why we're in the country

Those are normal questions.

The nhs is not the world's go to free healthcare.

I would suggest London is not for you because of your work situation. 2 part time salaries.

London is an expensive place and if you are living in a cheaper area it must be a culture shock to come from where you have come from.

You say that your dd has sns. Is there a support group you could join with other parents facing the same struggles.

I have a friend who has a dc with a particular sn. Very very rare. They found one other case in the UK and made contact with those parents (who live 20miles away by fluke). They have said just talking about things together has helped enormously

Like your husband did? Jam? How can you live with his colonising arse?

@Candyflip Proof of citizenship, yes, not calling up immigration (twice!) because our British passport says DD was born in Takapuna so must be a fake. All this going on while DD has gone into status for her Epilepsy.. wouldn't want to treat someone that doesn't 'belong'!

JamSandwiches45

Why thank you - yes, I do expect to be shown respect for my hard work and achievements in life and for that to be financially rewarded. Perhaps it provides some insight into the lives of people working in the UK and how ridiculous your sweeping generalisations such as The general attitude/reluctance for people to actually put in a hard days work is astounding sound. You are clearly setting out to be as offensive as possible, but laziness and low achievement are both rife in NZ as you know only too well.

@Candyflip Oh do kindly fuck of, Candy. In colonisation is a joke to you, you need an education.

But it is still a normal question. I get it too. I don’t take offence. The NHS is fucking wonderful as you obviously know.

You seem delightful best of luck with your move home.

I am a bit confused that you married a British citizen when you clearly have issues with antipodean British history. Do you call him a Colonial Bastard every time he forgets to put the bins out?

Your DH is British. You keep on insulting British people for being colonisers. Do you not see the idiocy?

@Chanelprincess Well here's another clap then, do you feel validated? Not sure where you got ideas of laziness and low achievement.. but okay.. here's another clap.. go away now?

I think it's best for everyone if you left. Or move to a different area.
I love London, moved from South Africa and I live in Notting hill and it's amazing. Great schools, real community feel (yes I know my neighbours) and so many green leafy areas.
My shop keepers are lovely and we often stop to have a chat.
But it's a huge shift for anyone to move to a big city. And it sounds like you don't want to live here (or in a very big city).

Being ‘British’ doesn’t entitle anyone to the NHS. I am a naturalised Brit living in London and about to move to Canada for a few years. I will lose my entitlement to the NHS while i am there.
So you made a deliberate decision to come to a country to use its free medical system and its amazing hospitals (many of which are in London including GOSH) but think it’s a filthy cesspit that you can’t wait to leave. Amazing.
I live in Zone 4. It’s not dirty. It’s friendly. There is little crime. It’s 20 mins to the museums of South Kensington. We are out every weekend doing fun stuff as a family.
I have visited both australia and NZ and found both places beautiful but extremely dull, NZ especially. We spent some time in Wellington and after a point I was pretty bored. Walks along the beach are fine but I need some culture/diversity etc. And I didn’t find Kiwis or Australians very friendly to non white foreigners.
But to each their own.

@Candyflip I said he was British. Do you know how many British Overseas Territories there are?