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My mum is dying and I'd like this space for comfort please.

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Knackeredhamster · 29/07/2023 07:58

Non Hodgkin's lymphoma.

12 weeks since first investigations.

She's late 70's. It's a total shock. The hospital care and communication has been rubbish.

Anyway here we are. We fought to get her home, she thought she'd never see it again.

I just need this space to come to as she's declining fast. Watching her cry and begging me to stop it all is killing me.
I just need words of anyone going thru this or having done in the past.

It's hell. I'm so so exhausted with each day, each decision, the uncertainty. I know it's not about me but I'm trying to do my best.

I'll come back. My thoughts are with anyone going thru this or having gone thru end of life.

Xx

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Owwww · 05/09/2023 00:34

Oh OP. I don't have any words for the feelings, but know I am holding you and your mum in my thoughts and my heart. I'm sleeping/not sleeping on a chair beside my mum in a hospital bed and thinking of you. Thank you for this beautiful thread and your lovely words.

❤️ for all our mothers tonight xx

Knackeredhamster · 06/09/2023 20:18

Thankyou

I'm not in a good place most of the time.
Haven't forgotten about the thread tho.

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Knackeredhamster · 06/09/2023 20:20

Owwww · 05/09/2023 00:34

Oh OP. I don't have any words for the feelings, but know I am holding you and your mum in my thoughts and my heart. I'm sleeping/not sleeping on a chair beside my mum in a hospital bed and thinking of you. Thank you for this beautiful thread and your lovely words.

❤️ for all our mothers tonight xx

I was doing the same.
Thankyou for your beautiful thoughts.
My heart goes out to you and all who are caring for a dying loved one.

Xx

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Run4it2 · 06/09/2023 23:29

It'll take time. Give yourself space. Take it easy on yourself. Try not to overthink. Try to remember the good times x

Owwww · 02/10/2023 15:40

My mother died on Saturday. It is just the most awful awful pain. I feel like I died too.

I just wanted to thank you for this thread @Knackeredhamster and tell you I'm thinking of you. I don't think I have the energy to create my own one so apologies for hijacking yours.

I hope you are managing to cope somehow x

Kiwirose · 02/10/2023 21:55

Sending you lots of love Owwww. My dad died recently. Nothing like it. Ex

Knackeredhamster · 03/10/2023 22:29

Owwww · 02/10/2023 15:40

My mother died on Saturday. It is just the most awful awful pain. I feel like I died too.

I just wanted to thank you for this thread @Knackeredhamster and tell you I'm thinking of you. I don't think I have the energy to create my own one so apologies for hijacking yours.

I hope you are managing to cope somehow x

I'm so so sorry 😔

I understand how painful it is. Thankyou for telling me, I understand not having any energy any anything to give.
Just speaking about it, is too hard. I've said it from the start there are a million words to say, but you can't find them to explain, or to relay this journey to anyone.

It's too much.

Be gentle to yourself. Don't pull yourself apart.

Xxxxx

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