So I have a condition that means I’m going to get not much notice of when I get super ill and die. Like none. My brother has asked me to write him a list of things he can do to help look after my DH when this happens. Facing the possibility of dying and not knowing when or if I have years is just bizarre and I can see the toll it’s taking on my DH.
So I’m in the position where I don’t know it’s coming or when, but I can write something somewhere for my brother. I was thinking of a secret Facebook group just me and my brother, one I can add to and he never has to read until the time comes.
So what shall I add? What kind of funeral I want? How I think people can help my DH? Goodbye letters to people? But to some family members I can’t bear to be all gushy and nice to them when they’ve been nothing but shit. But that seems cruel to leave them with that. Do I write something from “me” to be read at my funeral? Lists of what I do around the house banking wise/what to cancel?
But man it hurts just to have to think about these things, but then I can’t imagine leaving my DH. Off to find the tissues, again.
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Life-limiting illness
What would you want to know to do after your partner had died?
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FrogIAm · 14/01/2022 15:31
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