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Update on bugger, DH has cancer

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 29/09/2017 21:46

About this time last year DH was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in the bowel with secondaries in the liver and in the words of his oncologist, chances of recovery, survival etc were slim but they were going to give it a go.

It's now a year on, he has had 10 doses of chemo, a procedure to enlarge his liver so that they can then take half of it away and finally a month ago his bowel tumour along with 23 lymph nodes removed.

He is still very much in recovery stage and will have more chemo later this year but the fact that we are here is amazing. I have had some lovely support from fellow MNers who have been through this, going through this or just supporting and for that I am truly grateful.

So thank you all and onwards and upwards

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1234hello · 29/09/2017 22:23

Amazing news! It's really important to hear the good news stories so thank you for sharing. Onwards and upwards indeed. X

MadisonAvenue · 29/09/2017 22:25

That all sounds encouraging Five, sending my very best wishes Flowers

Chasingsquirrels · 29/09/2017 22:25

Lovely news to hear Five x

TwitterQueen1 · 30/09/2017 10:11

Great news OP! So encouraging to hear stories like this. Wishing you all the best.

tasmaniandevil · 30/09/2017 13:15

I was on another thread with you Five, that's great news. My DH is in remission from his colon cancer with liver mets. We're so grateful for the treatment he's had.

Willowkins · 30/09/2017 15:08

Very happy to hear your news. Smile

clairethewitch70 · 30/09/2017 15:12

Lovely news Five Smile

QOD · 30/09/2017 15:21

💐

CiderwithBuda · 30/09/2017 15:23

So nice to read!

DontDrinkDontSmoke · 30/09/2017 15:32

Great post, I hope he continues to get better and you have him until you are both ancient Flowers

missyB1 · 30/09/2017 15:34

Gosh that's amazing! So pleased he's doing well.

LuluJakey1 · 30/09/2017 15:36

That's really good news- amazing. Really pleased for you both. What a year!

PUGaLUGS · 30/09/2017 16:03

Fanny, you and your family are always in my thoughts.

Lovely news. Keep on going my darling xx

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 30/11/2017 12:20

I didn't think I would be here again, so what they though was abdominal fluid isn't and now he isn't going to get better. We have managed with help from friends to get a holiday booked leaving on Monday. This was on the advice of his consultant. Referral is winging its way to the hospice, God that sounds so final, for counselling and help with telling the DC's.

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tasmaniandevil · 30/11/2017 12:48

Oh Five. I'm sorry to hear your news. Keep strongThanks

mrsreynolds · 30/11/2017 12:50

So very sorry five
Love to you and yours x

peelthecarrots · 30/11/2017 13:00

I'm so gutted for you five. Thinking of you...just wish I could give you a real hug xx

Jetcatisback · 30/11/2017 13:04

Oh Five, I'm so sorry. The girls and I are sending you all huge love and strength xxx

Grace1980 · 30/11/2017 21:17

I'm so sorry :( wishing you love and strength x

MadisonAvenue · 30/11/2017 21:22

Oh no Five, I'm so sorry. Sending lots of love and strength to you, your husband and children Flowers

CiderwithBuda · 30/11/2017 21:39

Oh. no. I am so sorry Five. There are no words. Flowers

1234hello · 01/12/2017 20:19

Oh bugger, bugger and more bugger. I am so sorry to hear this news. Hospice is a word that no one wants the hear in their lives. But they really are amazing places that are the absolutely best at what they do - pain relief and other helpful treatments, holistic wellbeing and support for the whole family. They also don’t mean that the end is very near. My relative was referred at least 6/7 months before he died.

Is there no further treatment for the cancer on offer? Is Lonsurf an option?

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 03/12/2017 17:52

Thank your u for all you ur kind thoughts, chemo is starting again after Christmas to manage it, in the words of the consultant. She has written to a hospital in Manchester who are doing trials but she isn't holding out much hope as they cherry pick the ones that they think has the best chance of survival.

With a lot of help from a friends sister we are off to Mauritius tomorrow for an amazing holiday. My DDad died two years ago, cantankerous bugger died in Tahiti while on holiday, but his will was finalised last month and we have an amazing amount of money to spend on doing things with and without the children, I know that MN hates the "making memories" phrase but I am grateful that my children will be old enough to remember their dad. I work bank for the NHS and have ended up with an amazing team who will let me work whatever I like, accounts so always stuff to do, which will be a bit of respite for me. Children's schools have been really good especially DS's primary school.

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mrsreynolds · 03/12/2017 17:55

Have a wonderful time
My thoughts are with you and yours my love x

CiderwithBuda · 04/12/2017 04:55

Have a fabulous holiday. I'm sure the sun and relaxation will help you all.

I'm sorry you lost your Dad but I'm sure he would be very happy that you now have the money to do this. Cantankerous or not!