Small Cell Lung Cancer - growth in the brain?

[Katymac]

Dad has been ill for some time - he is now dying

The growth in his brain is what he will die of - but how will he die?

Will he just go to sleep, or have a stroke or an aneurysm or a heart attack

Everyone is being vague & despite saying he could have morphine at 'any time' now he has asked for it they have given him antidepressants

So sorry for your loss Katymac.I hope the funeral goes smoothly xx

It went fine

DD sang amazingly (I can't even remember the words right when I tell them what she sang )

It was very positive without being a celebration

Im glad the funeral went well (as well as funerals can go)
Did your DD sing a solo? That's very impressive and brave of her. What a lovely thing to do for her grandpa

Hope you and your mum are ok, it's the days after the funeral that are the hardest I think

She did it so well; she went a bit wobbly on the first verse but once she got to "Sail on Silver Girl" her voice dropped, strengthened and she belted it out

My Dad used to call her Silver Girl smile

The celebrant said he hates 'kids' singing at funerals but he was really impressed with DD

None of the family knew she could "sing too!"......I was a bit - I mean she is doing MT

Hi Katy. Sorry, I didn't see any updates but I hope you're holding up ok. I remember watching your DDs dancing videos so I can imagine she performed beautifully at the funeral.

How are you? My Mum has nearly been passed two months and we haven't yet had the funeral! If you want to chat, PM me. Grief is so unusual and confusing but remember not to keep things in. Emotions are good - both crying and laughter.

Fauchelevent - how sad for you; is there a reason for the delay?

I'm slightly embarrassed to say I feel relieved it's all over and we can get on with stuff now - I'm also dealing with closing my business after 13 years so I'm dealing with a lot - but my stress level has definitely reduced

I am very emotional (often tearful) - but (again embarrassingly) it's all about me (well me & DD).....My dad is well out of his situation & my mum will make of it what she will

Not very sure! My family isn't British so I guess we run even our funerals on "island time"! Even in the UK. I know both my grandparents funerals took a month or so too.

Don't be embarrassed - there is that feeling of relief that spending all the time in the hospital and also seeing a beloved parent in pain is all over and you can begin to discover a new normal which is unpredictable and difficult for sure but it will not always be darkness.

I too am often very emotional and temperamental - do you find it's in a weird way, you know it's linked to the grief but it's not explicitly about it? How is your DD? Was she very close? I was about the same age 19ish when I lost my grandparents (i'm 22 now) and although we weren't very close it was the first time i experienced a loss so it did floor me a bit. Remember that your DD can get uni support, deadline extensions and so on if she needs it.

He was at home - but I know what you mean

My SIL says in Sweden they can take up to a year planning a funeral but I was glad we got ours over with

DD & Pops were amazingly close - he was the first to think she might actually make performance her career when the rest of us were saying "that's nice dear" they sailed together they wrote together - it was lovely

She has had a fair amount of time off but needed to go back on Saturday for class (which was then cancelled - I was very cross) - but (fortunately) she isn't really at that sort of college it's very practical & her assessments were pretty much over by the time he died, but the last week was awful for all of us especially Pops