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19th Feb Wubblybubbly passed away

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wubblybubbly · 20/02/2012 00:45

I am Wubb's Husband and have borowed Wubbs acount for 10 mins to post this message,I know she posted here and had friends that may not be on FB

Wendy will always be in our hearts, in the mountains, snowflakes and sand.

2 years ago Wendy was diagnosed with Breast Cancer, after a mastectomy and chemotherapy Wendy had a scan in September showing that the cancer was still spreading after a further 2 different types of chemotherapy and fighting for 2 years she has finally been taken from us. Wendy was having problems with pain and breathing over the last 2 weeks and agreed to go into the Marie Curie Hospice in Gateshead on Wednesday 15th February, they did manage to help and ease all the pain, but on Thursday 16th February they informed us that the breathing issue was due to swelling below the diaphragm causing the lungs to be compacted, on Friday despite being on Oxygen Wendy started to slip into and out of consciousness, on Saturday the 18th February Wendy spoke her last words before slipping into unconsciousness, they were to our beautiful son Lawrie as he left to go home ?Love you, good night son? that must have taken such an effort. Wendy started having intermittent breadths at 12:50am on Sunday morning. Wendy passed away at 1am on Sunday morning 19th February, she was very peacefully and slipped away quietly thanks to the staff at the hospice who looked after the both of us until the end.
Wendy will live on in our hearts and Lawrie will always know what a special and beautiful mother he had, I will always remind him of how special and loved she was.
Wendy did share a dream, hallucination or vision with me and one of her friends Deborah who has already posted this on a forum so I?m going to pinch her convocation she had with Wendy:
?Woke really early this morning and wanted to share this with you all as this was part of the conversation I had with Wendy on Thursday
This is what she said, I hope I have used as many of her exact words as I could.
"You know I don't really believe in anything, but the other day I was well drifting, or maybe hallucinating : ) when mother Mary, and that's what she was called, mother Mary came and held my hand. She took me towards a man who was standing in front of a huge light and it was Jesus. I knew it was Jesus. I could see all of theses millions of particles of dust sparkling in the light behind him. Jesus explained that when we die that is what we become, millions of dust particles. And that we go back to earth in a million different places to sit on top of mountains, become snow flakes and grains of sand. We become a part of earth. We really never leave. "
I said to Wendy " that's are good as anything I have heard"
She said " well yes it's better than going to heaven and having to watch David sending Lawrie to school with a dodgy hair cut ' : D?
Always end on a joke that?s my girl.

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TheSecondComing · 20/02/2012 13:36

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RnB · 20/02/2012 13:39

So terribly sorry Sad

KurriKurri · 20/02/2012 13:43

Oh my dears - I am so very, very sorry. I knew Wendy from a time when she used to post on the breast cancer thread early on in her diagnosis, and have 'spoken' to her online since she became more unwell.

She was a lovely vibrant woman, full of interesting things to say, I saw her on various different topics adding her views. I can't begin to imagine what you and Lawrie are going through at this time, my heart goes out to you, - I do know that whenever Wendy did speak of her illness on the BC thread, her thoughts were always with her darling son and husband. Her love for you both shone through.

Thank you so much for taking time to let us know of her passing, which sounds peaceful, beautiful and full of love.

Bless you both, and my love to you. Kate xx

CiderwithBuda · 20/02/2012 13:44

My thoughts and sympathy are with you and Lawrie.

A others have said, feel free to stick around. MN is a fab place for support.

MaryAnnSingleton · 20/02/2012 14:05

I wanted to add my very heartfelt condolences -I remember wubblybubbly from her being with us on the tamoxifen thread - I'm thinking of you and your dear son and send love xx

ISpyPlumPie · 20/02/2012 14:29

So sorry for your loss xx

sodapops · 20/02/2012 15:03

So,very,very sorry for your loss.

Lots of love to you and Lawriexx

Bucharest · 20/02/2012 15:06

So sorry. x

Jux · 20/02/2012 15:46

So very sorry for your loss. x

ArielNonBio · 20/02/2012 17:21

I'm very, very sorry. Thank you for writing that. She sounds very special. Take care.

OlympicGoldPennies · 20/02/2012 17:54

Mr. Wubbly - I was one of the ladies who was on the Tamoxifen threads she posted on. My heart is in bits for your loss and I know how bravely she fought this horrible disease.

WhoremoaneeGrainger · 20/02/2012 20:08

Mr Wubbly - You and your son have my total sympathy. Wishing you strength at this difficult time.

KnottyLocks · 20/02/2012 20:37

Mr Wubbley,

so sorry to hear of your loss. My heart goes out to you and Lawrie.

I have sent you a PM (private message) that you should be able to access if you look at the Inbox at the top of this page. There should be a little red dot to show you have a message.

You and Lawrie are both in my thoughts. x

sandripples · 20/02/2012 21:57

I also knew Wubbly on the thread after my diagnosis in Dec 2009 - I am so sorry to hear about her passing and do send you and your son my sincere condolences - what a beautiful posting with her final thoughts and wisdom.
Love to you and your family.

MaryAnnSingleton · 20/02/2012 22:31

Just wanted to add that we are having a day of candles (real and virtual) tomorrow over on the Tamoxifen thread in memory of Wubbly and to send good thoughts to her family.

Clary · 20/02/2012 22:35

What a lovely post, it has brought tears to my eyes. So sorry for your loss, but you and your son can be so proud of the wife and mother you both knew. xxx

TheFarSide · 20/02/2012 22:49

I am very, very sad to hear this news. My condolences to you and your son.

chipmonkey · 20/02/2012 23:58

So very sorry for your loss, I never spoke to Wendy but she sounds like a lovely, lovely lady. Much love to you and to Lawrie.

LizaTarbucksAuntie · 21/02/2012 11:58

So sorry for your and Lawrie's loss.

It sounds like Wendy was as loved and loving as any of us can hope to be.

I'll be praying for you all and all the dust motes.

VJayazzle · 21/02/2012 12:35

So sorry Sad

LouMacca · 21/02/2012 12:58

So very sorry for the loss of your beloved Wife and Mum x

OrmIrian · 21/02/2012 13:01

So very sorry Sad

TheGashlycrumbTinies · 21/02/2012 13:28

So terribly sorry.

laptopwieldingharpy · 21/02/2012 13:46

So sorry for your loss Sad

Pinot · 21/02/2012 14:41

crying
so so so sorry