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19th Feb Wubblybubbly passed away

132 replies

wubblybubbly · 20/02/2012 00:45

I am Wubb's Husband and have borowed Wubbs acount for 10 mins to post this message,I know she posted here and had friends that may not be on FB

Wendy will always be in our hearts, in the mountains, snowflakes and sand.

2 years ago Wendy was diagnosed with Breast Cancer, after a mastectomy and chemotherapy Wendy had a scan in September showing that the cancer was still spreading after a further 2 different types of chemotherapy and fighting for 2 years she has finally been taken from us. Wendy was having problems with pain and breathing over the last 2 weeks and agreed to go into the Marie Curie Hospice in Gateshead on Wednesday 15th February, they did manage to help and ease all the pain, but on Thursday 16th February they informed us that the breathing issue was due to swelling below the diaphragm causing the lungs to be compacted, on Friday despite being on Oxygen Wendy started to slip into and out of consciousness, on Saturday the 18th February Wendy spoke her last words before slipping into unconsciousness, they were to our beautiful son Lawrie as he left to go home ?Love you, good night son? that must have taken such an effort. Wendy started having intermittent breadths at 12:50am on Sunday morning. Wendy passed away at 1am on Sunday morning 19th February, she was very peacefully and slipped away quietly thanks to the staff at the hospice who looked after the both of us until the end.
Wendy will live on in our hearts and Lawrie will always know what a special and beautiful mother he had, I will always remind him of how special and loved she was.
Wendy did share a dream, hallucination or vision with me and one of her friends Deborah who has already posted this on a forum so I?m going to pinch her convocation she had with Wendy:
?Woke really early this morning and wanted to share this with you all as this was part of the conversation I had with Wendy on Thursday
This is what she said, I hope I have used as many of her exact words as I could.
"You know I don't really believe in anything, but the other day I was well drifting, or maybe hallucinating : ) when mother Mary, and that's what she was called, mother Mary came and held my hand. She took me towards a man who was standing in front of a huge light and it was Jesus. I knew it was Jesus. I could see all of theses millions of particles of dust sparkling in the light behind him. Jesus explained that when we die that is what we become, millions of dust particles. And that we go back to earth in a million different places to sit on top of mountains, become snow flakes and grains of sand. We become a part of earth. We really never leave. "
I said to Wendy " that's are good as anything I have heard"
She said " well yes it's better than going to heaven and having to watch David sending Lawrie to school with a dodgy hair cut ' : D?
Always end on a joke that?s my girl.

OP posts:
lucidlady · 20/02/2012 07:53

So sorry for your loss xx

mummymccar · 20/02/2012 07:55

So sorry for your loss, thinking of your family at this difficult time. Xxx

TheOneWithTheHair · 20/02/2012 08:00

So sorry for your loss. x

BellaVita · 20/02/2012 08:01

I am sorry x

DaisySteiner · 20/02/2012 08:03

So sorry. xx

BerryLellow · 20/02/2012 08:14

So very sorry for your loss, wishing you and your son peace and strength x

twolittlebundles · 20/02/2012 08:17

So very sorry xxx

Thumbwitch · 20/02/2012 08:21

So very sorry for your and Lawrie's loss. I hope that you have family around you to help out - let them help you as much as they are able, and ask for things when you need them.

Wendy's words about her vision were so beautiful - I hope she is in the sparkling dust motes that are everywhere around you both.

Love to you all. xx

CharlotteBronteSaurus · 20/02/2012 08:21

I'm so very sorry for your loss. We'll be thinking of you all x

HaveYouTakenLeaveOfYourCervix · 20/02/2012 08:47

I am sorry for your loss. Wend's vision sounds beautiful and I hope it can be a comfort to you.

differentnameforthis · 20/02/2012 08:52

So terribly sorry for your loss.

lubeybooby · 20/02/2012 08:54

I'm so sorry for your loss, I didn't know Wendy but your post brought tears to my eyes. I hope the vision is a comfort to you and DS. Thinking of you x

hathorinareddress · 20/02/2012 08:58

So sorry for your loss.

PeanutButterCupCake · 20/02/2012 09:01

Very sorry for your loss, sending a prayer for you and DS. Hope you have lots of RL support. We're very good listeners too if you need to unload.
What a comforting dream that must of been for Wendy.

Dillydollydaydream · 20/02/2012 09:19

So sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and your little boy. Take care

SquashedSquirrel · 20/02/2012 09:21

So very sorry and sad for you all. Thank you for sharing, thinking of you all,

x

RabidEchidna · 20/02/2012 09:36

I don't remember being on many threads with WubblyBubbly but I am so sorry to hear she has passed away, thoughts and prayers with you and your family, she sounds a remarkable woman x

Pleiades45 · 20/02/2012 10:02

I'm sorry for your loss. You are so brave to be able to post this message so soon after the event when you are hurting so much. I sense you are a strong person who will get you and your family through this hard time. Hold strong, it will take time but it will get easier.

Why don't you print out the conversation with Wendy and frame it along side a few grains of sand?

My prayers are with you.

seasalt · 20/02/2012 10:11

My sympathy to you and your little boy.

aleene · 20/02/2012 10:14

I am so very sorry. Thinking of you and your family.

Kellamity · 20/02/2012 10:18

Aw I am so sorry to hear this. My love to you and your little boy. She sounds like a incredibly special lady.

member · 20/02/2012 10:19

So sorry for your loss, wishing you & your son strength at this most difficult of times.x

Faverolles · 20/02/2012 10:19

I'm so sorry for your loss x

wubblybubbly · 20/02/2012 10:21

Pleiades45 you know that is a beautiful idea thank you so much for the suggestion, that is some thing me and Lawrie will do.

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Bluebell99 · 20/02/2012 10:30

So sorry to hear of you loss. Thinking of you and Lawrie.