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A little advice please?

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mananny · 23/07/2008 18:31

Ok, in a nutshell one of my best friends and I have been what would appear to be crazily flirting with each other. I've never been attracted to a woman before, but I am to her. It has suddenly hit me like a bolt from the blue that maybe a relationship with her is an option. Neither of us have talked about this but I think we will have to soon as other people have made some comments to me about "us" and if they see something there then maybe there is iyswim. I'm really scared as I don't want to ruin our friendship. But sometimes she just looks at me like she wants to say something then I just blush like mad and the moments gone. I'd really appreciate any advice on how to handle this, as I really don't know what to do/say! Its so much easier telling a guy how you feel, even if it ends in him running for the hills. I wouldn't know where to begin with her, even though we see each other and talk all the time. Its so scary and new to even think about this. Help!

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mananny · 24/08/2008 14:59

OMG.

So after being away for 3 weeks so far and talking to her lots, it fell silent on the communication front a few days ago. I emailed her to say hope all was well. She emailed back that she had so much to say and wanted to say it in person when I come home next weekend. I replied saying I was nervous, should I be nervous??!!

OMG.

She's now away with work this week. And I'm already going bloody nutso wondering if she's going to say what I hope she will.

AAAGGGGHHHHHHHHH....

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BeHereNow · 24/08/2008 20:23

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hester · 24/08/2008 21:28

I.. can.... barely...breathe!

Whatever happens, mananny, you'll have a rapt audience here waiting to hear all about it!

mananny · 25/08/2008 18:55

Not good news I'm afraid. I jumped the gun and emailed to say I knew she was working but I couldn't wait til next weekend, what did she have to say? Her response in a nutshell: she needs time and space as she is terribly uncomfortable with knowing how I feel now. She didn't really want to do it by email but I asked.

So. There it is. I guess for the time being anyway I'm one best friend down.

Am very sad. Not so much at the rejection itself, but the coldness of her response.

I wish I wasn't so giving of myself and my heart so easily. It fecking hurts.

Ugh.

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hester · 25/08/2008 22:42

Oh mananny - NO. I'm so very sorry. I really have to go to bed now, but I'll be back tomorrow if you want to talk.

Give yourself a big hug, girlie; the right one is just around the corner.

mananny · 26/08/2008 13:25

Thanks gals

I emailed her back with a WTF type reply, saying I was hurt by how cold her email was. She replied with various bumfluff excuses. I emailed back with my own bumfluff. Then I apologised for making her uncomfortable. Then she apologised for being icey. The she offered a deal: friends again but nothing more, no misconceptions. (misconceptions???!!!)

I accepted the deal tho as I'd rather have her has a friend than not at all. I couldn't let our friendship go down the pan over this. Hopefully I won't regret my decision.

Things are a little awkward today. I've got a random day off work so its perfect timing, am going off to spoil myself. Have got the one year anniversary of something v nasty coming up next week so I need a mental health day to do some deep breathing and book closing anyway.

It never rains but it pours.

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hester · 26/08/2008 22:03

Mananny, I am so disappointed for you; it's very painful, I know. Sorry too that you've got a horrid anniversary coming up. Do you have a good friend (no, not that one!) around who can help you through the next few days?

Lucifera · 27/08/2008 15:54

Mananny, just read latest posts on this thread and very sorry for your disappointment. Hope you are feeling a bit better by now (about her) and that you get through next week OK.

mananny · 27/08/2008 19:20

Thanks for your kind words. They're much appreciated!

Girl in question kind of WAS my crutch for next week. But I'll be ok, fragile yes. Have spent the last few days wishing I'd just kept my trap shut. I mean, I feel saying something was not worth the loss I feel now. She said friends still, but there's been no communication since and I know she's talking to others on her blog. I'm trying not to read it or even go near her territory as it just makes me hurt more about what I've lost. I miss how it was and am sooooo ready to just hop on a plane home and run away from everything, especially with next weeks year since reminder. I do have other friends but she was my best friend and that's hard to replace, even if I wanted to.

Might be back several times for some morale boosting in the next few days. Thanks in advance for listening to me mither on.

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