a mum in my son's class fancies me.

[ShadyLady]

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I am quite an open minded liberal type. Since preschool I have known that one of the parents of another little boy was gay. she had been in a relationship with another woman. As time went on they split up and she got together with another woman. This was all confusing to her and we chatted and I was supportive and kind, when we saw each other at social things and children's parties I always made an effort.

There was one incident where a very Christain woman had 'words' with her and I stuck up for her and helped resolve the situation.

Another friend went out for a drink with her the other week and they got really drunk and the gay friend told the mutual friend that she really fancies me and has done for ages.

I don't really know what to do - do I ignore it or talk to her or avoid her or what?

I feel really weird about this one.

oh she is mad..run

hmmm...sounds like you could end up in a messy situation then , if you get too involved....

I don't think you should abandon her but you will definitely have to have "the" conversation-or else you could end up in a tricky situation.

I have been in a realtionship for 23yrs but there is a guy in my life who really fancies me (mad fool) he and others have told me this but becasue our frienship is important it has gone no firther.
I love having a friend who cares about me but knows there is nothing more in it.

thank you everyone.

I saw her at drop off and went all red - she put her head down and left quickly without speaking to me

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Agree with Fio. I bet there are some people you 'fancy' despite being in a relationship. You might say this to a friend when pi**ed but not intend doing anything about it. I would leave it, unless she decides to discuss it with you.

thank you - i think I am going to ignore it but my uncontrollable blushing means that she knows I know.

Dimpled having just caught up on this thread may I just say its flattering and not embarressing. So what she knows you are aware, in my opinion either confront her and say hey i hear you fancy me, how can we remain friends, lets talk about it because I'm not gay or as others say, ignore it unless it causes you to become too distant. Try to get use to the idea as no big deal, if you are sure about your feelings nothing really needs to change between you guys. As for supporting her if she becomes too emotionally close I feel it would be appropriate to say you have heard she has feelings for you however you see her as a friend and nothing more so its out in the open. x