DD has also now come out gay…

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My DS who is in her early 20s came out when a teen and now my DD has shared she’s also gay. Whilst I’ve got no issue with it, wondered how many other families had two or more gay children?

DH has 5 cousins that have ‘come out’ as gay over the course of their 20s. He also has a niece that is gay. I think one of two may well come out over the coming years.

We often wonder which of his aunts/uncles didn’t live their true life as society was so less accepting. Or perhaps his parent.

I have no idea if there is a genetic component but it seems so to me. We have a friend who has two adult children that are gay, two brothers that are gay and 3 nieces and 2 nephews.

Once it stopped being illegal people stopped having to hide. Nothing really surprising about it.

@Hubblebubble I guess I am just surprised that two schools in the same area are 90% either gay/bi- that is a massively different representation to the rest of the population which led me to think that at least at my children's schools, it could be seen as not 'cool' to be heterosexual, as heterosexuals are in the extreme minority at both schools.

usually whenever they have their first crush it's an indication, but sometimes not until adulthood. i was about 14 myself (this was 2002, though, so that's probably a bit later than average now)

I'm a lesbian (early 20s) and my brother (late 30s) is pansexual- funnily enough, the entire rest of our family are straight! Our parents must have lucked out on the gay genes somehow 😅

3/3 of mine.
it’s been challenging.
Its up to my children to choose their relationships but I did wonder about them extending their families. My DD is very maternal and has always wanted a baby, she has now spent upwards of 30000 trying to get pregnant, putting a massive strain on their relationship.

This 100%.
My 19 yo DD thinks she is a trans man. She is definitely 100% gay but I honestly think this social contagion has them persuaded they must be a male in order to like women:(She is almost homophobic at this point - refused to go to a pride event with anything ‘rainbow’ because that’s so gay apparently!)
In reference to the original post, most of my kid’s friends are at least bi, or something other than heterosexual at this point!

Both my daughters are gay and my nephew is trans. They seem perfectly happy with their identities and their lives.

I hope things turn out ok for them x

Hope she has better friends than you
you sound smug that this is happening in her family

ManchesterLu · 07/01/2024 14:36
I have a friend who has one lesbian daughter and one daughter who is now living as male. She is one of those people who acts like she's upper class when she's not, and always talked about her kids' weddings, having grandchildren etc. The way things have panned out knocked her for 6 but actually it seems to have affected her overall in a really positive way, and everyone's much happier for it.

4DC

one lesbian
one still making her mind up - I would say asexual at present but definitely not heterosexual

No it's true, certainly in some friendship groups. My dd's friends, aged 15-16 are literally like 'ew straight people. Gross.' Everyone is gay, bi, pansexual or trans. And a worryingly increasing number of girls claiming to be trans.

Bollocks that everyone is gay, trans etc. This sort of exaggerated talk implies that sexuality is a fad, and really minimises the experiences of teens who are going through a difficult period of working out who they are. It's Pride month, show a bit of tact.

My two finished school last year and the year before, 100% heterosexual and not experiencing any pressure or bullying. They have gay and trans friends and there was certainly lots of talk about preferences in high school, but also acceptance both ways. Now they're adults and out of the school environment the majority of their friendship groups are in straight relationships or having straight hookups.

My daughter came out 2 years ago.. after being married to a man and having a child who is 10 now.. her partner did exactly the same.

It’s not beyond the realms of imagination that them being LGBT+ has brought them together as friends, and that’s why there are few straight people in the friendship group.

It’s absolute rubbish to extrapolate that to the entire population of teenagers in Britain, the vast majority of whom identify as straight.

I'm bi and both my cousins are gay men (brothers).

Close friend is gay and so is his twin brother.