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DD has also now come out gay…

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BarrelOfFun · 10/07/2023 07:32

My DS who is in her early 20s came out when a teen and now my DD has shared she’s also gay. Whilst I’ve got no issue with it, wondered how many other families had two or more gay children?

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TippledPink · 02/01/2024 16:15

I think in the younger crowd it is definitely more common so likely to have siblings also gay/bi as they will be similar ages. Everyone's gay/bi that my daughter knows! Its not socially acceptable to be heterosexual anymore.

Rowawa · 02/01/2024 16:40

TippledPink · 02/01/2024 16:15

I think in the younger crowd it is definitely more common so likely to have siblings also gay/bi as they will be similar ages. Everyone's gay/bi that my daughter knows! Its not socially acceptable to be heterosexual anymore.

Not socially acceptable to be straight? 😂

No man is going out and suckling blokes off just to be accepted socially 😂

ClaudiaWankleman · 02/01/2024 16:50

TippledPink · 02/01/2024 16:15

I think in the younger crowd it is definitely more common so likely to have siblings also gay/bi as they will be similar ages. Everyone's gay/bi that my daughter knows! Its not socially acceptable to be heterosexual anymore.

Don't be stupid and goady. Of course it is socially acceptable to be straight.

KohlaParasaurus · 02/01/2024 16:55

And on the other side of the coin, none of mine. Two of my daughters (that I know of) experienced same sex attraction in adolescence, as did I, but as adults we've all ended up straight. In my wider family, one of my cousins has a daughter who is lesbian. There's also nobody openly gay in my husband's extended family, at least as far down as the generation after his.

I have a good friend who has four sons in their forties, three of whom are gay.

Girahim · 02/01/2024 16:59

TippledPink · 02/01/2024 16:15

I think in the younger crowd it is definitely more common so likely to have siblings also gay/bi as they will be similar ages. Everyone's gay/bi that my daughter knows! Its not socially acceptable to be heterosexual anymore.

Its not socially acceptable to be heterosexual anymore.

What a load of wank. How many people do you know who have beaten up for being straight? Or kicked owt by their families? Because that still happens to gay and bi people.

determinedtomakethiswork · 02/01/2024 22:32

Obviously gay and trans are not the same things.

There was a kind of contagion in schools a while ago. It seems to have eased off a little bit now.

TippledPink · 07/01/2024 12:49

Girahim · 02/01/2024 16:59

Its not socially acceptable to be heterosexual anymore.

What a load of wank. How many people do you know who have beaten up for being straight? Or kicked owt by their families? Because that still happens to gay and bi people.

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Who is talking about getting beaten up? Every one of my friends kids are either bi or gay, all my children's friends are gay or bi- its like a right of passage with teenagers these days, they can't be seen as straight. You can't tell me that every teenager is gay/bi- some are saying it to fit in.

TippledPink · 07/01/2024 12:51

Seem to have triggered a few people 😂 I am talking about at school and with teenagers- not amongst adults!

Girahim · 07/01/2024 13:05

TippledPink · 07/01/2024 12:49

Who is talking about getting beaten up? Every one of my friends kids are either bi or gay, all my children's friends are gay or bi- its like a right of passage with teenagers these days, they can't be seen as straight. You can't tell me that every teenager is gay/bi- some are saying it to fit in.

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You're talking as though honophobia doesn't exist anymore. If definitely does.

Georgie743 · 07/01/2024 13:10

My sibling and I are both gay 🤷‍♀️

radiatordrama · 07/01/2024 13:11

Not yet! When do children normally start to identify as gay/not gay?

flashmcdoodle · 07/01/2024 13:44

2 out of 4 of mine (so far)

pikkumyy77 · 07/01/2024 13:47

Both my dds are gay. Though one might also be bi. One niece is straight and one trans. Everyone seems really happy.

BebbanburgIsMine · 07/01/2024 13:48

My two DDs are heterosexual, my niece is gay, and I have one cousin who is also gay.

LoveSandbanks · 07/01/2024 13:51

We've got three boys - oldest came out as bisexual at 13. Never fully believed it and he's now come out as gay. Middle one is a-sexual. Youngest is heterosexual (so far😂)

NotInvisible · 07/01/2024 13:52

My older sister and younger brother

ChanelNo19EDT · 07/01/2024 13:55

It used to be about 3 - 5% of people. When I was at school about 4 boys and 1 girl were gay, there were about 125 of us.

So in 30 years it's quadrupled. Funny that.
People looking for attention used to be vegetarian in 1989. Now they"ve got to be trans. My kids even know classmates who were one of 6 kids and were vegan, nobody cared, so they upped the ante a bit, trans that got the parents' attention finally. My son goes to a school so liberal that even one of the teachers is trans.

Kannet111 · 07/01/2024 14:06

I have wondered about the genetic element. I have twenty cousins with two openly gay( obviously there may be more who haven't come out but seems unlikely) Dh has six cousins and all are gay (except for him).

Obviously not bothered about anyone else's sexual orientation but I found it unusual.

Wotchaz · 07/01/2024 14:10

I’m one of 3 and both my siblings are gay (I’m not).

Hubblebubble · 07/01/2024 14:16

@TippledPink I think it's much more likely that the same amount of people as always are bi or gay, but don't have to hide in straight relationships/live with a 'best friend' anymore

OwlWeiwei · 07/01/2024 14:25

Both my sons came out as gay then the one who first came out thought maybe he wasn't after all. He seems to date women and trans men (ie women) never bio males. He identifies as non-binary which I think is his generation's way of saying gender is meaningless.

CharlotteCollinsneeLucas · 07/01/2024 14:26

I'm with @TippledPink on this. My two older DDs are lesbian/bi but not in relationships yet. In their sixth form, there was the straight crowd and the gay crowd. The way they described it, it was half and half.

I'm not really bothered what their orientation is, but I do think there is social pressure there. I think bi is a lot more popular now because you're not rejecting anyone. My DD also write their pronouns on their social media and I think that's similar, wanting to be kind.

ManchesterLu · 07/01/2024 14:36

I have a friend who has one lesbian daughter and one daughter who is now living as male. She is one of those people who acts like she's upper class when she's not, and always talked about her kids' weddings, having grandchildren etc. The way things have panned out knocked her for 6 but actually it seems to have affected her overall in a really positive way, and everyone's much happier for it.

Towerofsong · 07/01/2024 14:41

oldoldieoldieold · 10/07/2023 09:23

Gay and trans are not the same thing at all.

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I think OP was talking about both as in their first line they referred to DS as her.

TheDefiant · 07/01/2024 20:05

Gosh. Lots of diverse families here. In my family (and I'm including loads of cousins and loads of in laws) no one my generation (I'm a xennial) or below is gay, lesbian or bi.

One niece wobbles but I think she's actually straight and wobbling to get attention from her parents. (I'm 99% sure of this as this fits with her behaviours generally)

I have an almost 100 year old relative who would probably be considered asexual and an older in-law who came out as gay late in life.

We're a bit boring obviously.